by Cilis » Tue Mar 13, 2012 6:41 pm
I'll come out of lurk to say this as a former victim of ED.
Things that can cause it and why; ( In young men, older men can add heart disease to the list. )
1.) Stress
2.) Fear
3.) Excessive masturbation
4.) Cutting calories
5.) Sleep deprivation
6.) Low testosterone
7.) Being overweight
8.) Low temperature
1+2; The penis hides itself when a man is feeling either of those emotions, this is so that we are discouraged from trying to mate when our life is in danger, and it is also to enable us to run if we need to. This sucks especially because if a guy begins to have anxiety over getting it up, he sets himself up in a fail cycle.
Treat it by focusing not on his orgasm, but making him more aware of his body and the sensations... repeatedly get him hard, then let him get soft, this teaches him that he can get erection after erection, and takes focus off staying hard long enough to orgasm. Specifically do this as a relaxing exercise with no thought of actual sex in mind, it's just playing around and loving on each other, taking the stress and fear out of it.
3; The brain rewards us with happy chemicals, but it gets us to seek out new sources of food/ mates/ pleasure by making us get tired of the current "Dose" which is why junkies need more and more drugs to feel good, and why some people cheat. This is why extreme fetishes come about as well. It's all an effort to get the same high. If he masturbates daily, he may need to stop outside of once a week, give his body time to become responsive to the chemicals again, they only get numb from over-exposure.
You can also send him out on a 10 minute walk, the exercise will increase serotonin and dopamine receptiveness as exercise is proven to.
4.) Simply put, the body goes into survival mode when one diets. Testosterone is stopped because the body doesn't want to make babies when they can't be fed at the expense of the father being able to eat, it also does this because it can shrink muscles by doing so, which lowers the caloric need of the man. Try a big meal and attempt sex some hours later.
5.) Testosterone is fairly complex, the majority of it is made while a man is asleep. Any lack of sleep will make the testosterone levels drop like a stone. Make sure your man gets sleep, and that he gets enough zinc, a critical mineral for making sperm and testosterone.
6.) Naturally this is self explanatory. Treatments include replacement or stimulation. Stimulation is based off of using drugs like clomiphene citrate to make the pituitary gland order more testosterone be made by the testicles. This is the better option, as the testicles will not atrophy/ become smaller with disuse. Replacement will cause some testicle shrinking, but replacement is far more convenient as they make implants for it.
7.) Excess weight converts testosterone into estrogene in a process called artimos (I know I spelled that wrong) which prompts more fat storage, which prompts more estrogene conversion by the fat cells.
8.) Being cold fires off an insecurity anxiety with most people because most have been brought up to feel uncomfortable with being naked around others. That insecurity hampers arousal and climax in males and females. The simple solution is to wear socks
They had couples having sex with their brains being scanned, only half of the couples tested the first time could manage a climax in either partner, when women and men wore socks or stockings, the added warmth greatly eased the insecurity activity in the brain, which rose the number of those able to climax during brain scans to 80%.
Last piece of advice; Cialis offers a waiver, as does viagra and livertra. He can see a doctor and request to try samples, or request prescription, and try it out.
Those drugs work by retarding the decay of the chemicals that cause erections, when I was on those drugs, I could distract myself entirely, but thanks to the drugs, my erection stayed firm because those chemicals went to breaking down in mere moments, to lasting 10 minutes of no stimulation or erotic thought.
The pill is a great comfort to have because you know if you need it, it's there, and your anxiety as a male is eased.
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Cilis on Wed Mar 14, 2012 10:22 am, edited 1 time in total.