How has your experiance of sharing vore gone?

[tastyWeasel]

While the "coming out" threads aren't too popular for some reason, I'd like to know is what would be a good way to know if a person is cool with vore without revealing yourself because I have been getting some anxiety about his guilty pleasure. Secondly, for those who have told, how well has it gone? If you told multiple people, what was the most common response?

[bringonthelulz]

Coming out threads aren't popular because vore is a goddamn fetish and even calling it 'Coming Out' trivializes the various groups that actually face real life and workplace discrimination because of it. Like, you don't "come out' on facebook as a foot fetishist, no one gives a shit. You aren't going to go to work and have your boss be like "Oh I saw your post on facebook that you fantasize sexually about being eaten alive, so... don't expect a raise anytime soon and I might be looking for an excuse to fire you that will gel logically." Anyone you don't directly tell will not know, unlike the poor gay dude three doors down who kissed his boyfriend outside the door to work and is now packing his shit up because his boss is a homophobe and happened to find enough on him to send him packing. Our fetish is cool. We like it. And it makes us happy. But holy shit guys, get some perspective. At fucking worst it's "I told a friend a secret about myself and they thought it was creepy/stupid/disgusting/etc.." You know. The same as every other fucking secret in the world? The same as saying "I fucking hate dogs." or "I collect Hatsune Miku memorabilia". Those of you that are furries are free to ignore this because you guys go through some rough shit, same goes for members of the LGBT community, and people this doesn't apply to due to extenuating circumstances (i.e. you're still living with your parents and they are crazy religious and will likely beat you for anything related to sexual deviancy).

To answer the question though, a friend once found my porn folder on accident (I found it better now) and was like "Uhhhh.... What the fuck is with these eating pictures?" (A rather sensible reaction, objectively). I countered with "The fuck is with you and the tentacle pictures?" and from there it just became a thing we'd occasionally tease each other about.

[DeltaRomeo]

I told my girlfriend after I had been telling her for weeks that I had a really weird fetish that I wasn't ready to share (she was asking). When I finally told her she shrugged and said "It's weird, but it's not that weird." She's never pretended to be interested, but she wasn't freaked out about it.

[Brainfood]

I mean, it depends on who you tell. The only people I've ever told were already familiar enough with how weird I am to not care. Heh, my first boyfriend made me tell my kinky thing first, and seemed slightly disappointed afterward when BDSM kind of paled in comparison.
The second boyfriend is into furries, monsters, slime creatures, and several other quote unquote freaky things.

I happen to still live with my parents, which isn't surprising since I'm actually just old enough to be here, but since I've accidentally come across a few self-help books of the spicing-up-marital-sex-life type and they're uncomfortable with me having any privacy with someone I might end up fucking anywhere in the house (despite being pretty liberal), well,

I mean the only reason I would say that there is for telling people you're not currently or potentially sharing a sex life with is that it's kind of amazing how much anxiety it can relieve. Maybe that's not the case for everyone, but for me, at least, a secret is a secret, and it's quite stressful having something on my mind for very long without letting someone know about it, especially one that might in some way draw negative judgement.

Like bringonthelulz said, though, it's not something most people are going to care about, for the same reason that it's not a whole lot more visible than it is: people don't actually eat or be eaten much, and when they do, it's generally not the kind of stuff that's most popular here. It's not going to happen, therefore there's nothing to worry about.

[tastyWeasel]

I'm not going to tell a random friend or family member, I guess a better question is, is there a way to tell if someone is into vore (therefore safe to mention to them)?

[XDDX]

I guess I have had mostly positive responses? At least I didn't have anyone tie me to a stick to burn me for witchcraft yet. At this point, I am fairly open about it, which doesn't mean that I'll tell everyone on the street but I don't feel ashamed about it anymore, which is something I used to do. I started off by telling a close friend when we were talking about that kind of thing anyways. At the time, my friend didn't get it (which is largely the response I have been getting, but then, I don't really get other fetishes either so that seems to be normal). I think it has been good for me and I would encourage people to tell others about it, especially partners.

[MaxTwenty]

Coming out threads aren't popular because vore is a goddamn fetish and even calling it 'Coming Out' trivializes the various groups that actually face real life and workplace discrimination because of it. Like, you don't "come out' on facebook as a foot fetishist, no one gives a shit. You aren't going to go to work and have your boss be like "Oh I saw your post on facebook that you fantasize sexually about being eaten alive, so... don't expect a raise anytime soon and I might be looking for an excuse to fire you that will gel logically." Anyone you don't directly tell will not know, unlike the poor gay dude three doors down who kissed his boyfriend outside the door to work and is now packing his shit up because his boss is a homophobe and happened to find enough on him to send him packing. Our fetish is cool. We like it. And it makes us happy. But holy shit guys, get some perspective. At fucking worst it's "I told a friend a secret about myself and they thought it was creepy/stupid/disgusting/etc.." You know. The same as every other fucking secret in the world? The same as saying "I fucking hate dogs." or "I collect Hatsune Miku memorabilia". Those of you that are furries are free to ignore this because you guys go through some rough shit, same goes for members of the LGBT community, and people this doesn't apply to due to extenuating circumstances (i.e. you're still living with your parents and they are crazy religious and will likely beat you for anything related to sexual deviancy).

To answer the question though, a friend once found my porn folder on accident (I found it better now) and was like "Uhhhh.... What the fuck is with these eating pictures?" (A rather sensible reaction, objectively). I countered with "The fuck is with you and the tentacle pictures?" and from there it just became a thing we'd occasionally tease each other about.

New record for /thread.

But seriously, if you feel the burning need to tell someone, the first on the list is sexual partners, and if these are unavailable maybe tell a friend. Ideally one who is first accepting and second maybe also deviant. Your parents don't need to know. Ever. Nor do your coworkers.

What I don't personally get, even though I did feel the burning need to tell (and did, and it went well, and the person is question seems chill, and NO this is not a "come out and tell the world" testimonial in any way, only a this particular situation which is far too complicated to explain fully worked out kind of way, and also here's another comma) is... what's wrong with everyone here? This is a community of thousands, at least hundreds of whom are active. Naturally common sense should prevail when you talk about meeting people from here in meatspace and so on; don't go to anyone's house if they regularly express desires to eat someone IRL. But these are living breathing people who identify with you in some sense. Do they not count? Is it not enough to talk about sportball with sportball fan friends and vore with vore friends?

The most pertinent point is that everyone's situation is different. If I told my friend and he was like "K", that doesn't mean by statistics that your friend(s), your parents, your boss, coworker, neighbor, or anyone else is going to be as chill. It's something you need to be careful with, but at the core it's something they don't need to know. More importantly, you must consider; they likely don't *want* to know. Imagine your friend tells you he's had sex with 7 goats. This is a ridiculous (though plausible) example, but did you want to know that? Will you look at him the same afterward? Even if you could adjust, is that going to create friction? Consider that once you put this out there, even if it's a weight off your shoulders, you're dumping it onto someone else. Eventually they may adapt. So might you. Does that mean don't confide ever? No. It means be considerate.

[Person]

I've told a romantic interest (who I don't talk to anymore for unrelated reasons), and then a current friend. The former was kind of weirded out, but we were sharing fetishes and stuff at the time so there was no judgement there. The latter I told recently, and she was already aware of vore so it didn't come as much of a shock, I guess.

Dunno who else I might tell. Probably no-one, but you never know.

[Kuja]

Telling anyone is a really dumb idea because no one knows how to ever keep their mouth shut. Trust me no matter how much you trust them somthing as juicy as vore they will eventually let slip.

[Mecho]

I have never ever had a bad reaction. And the people who knows about it thinks it rather amusing. When my sister and I was audio chatting with two of her friends them stark to talk about eating people (This was just an coincident. Lol) And my sister said "My sister actually likes stuff like that" and they start to talk about ways to eat me. (It was two guys so I really didn't mind ) Stuff like this happens on a regular basis. This is not the first time.

It's cool when people don't take stuff to serious. That is how life should be in general to

[leriodenbron]

The whole fuckin thing

Ok so you might not even remember posting it but I saw your post and...right fucking on, man. I'm not like, clambering at the gates for vore to be a super widespread-in-the-community-awareness kinda deal, but I'm glad that there are some people out there who think like real human beings. Peace on ya, brother.

Oh, it was on the "How Has Your Experience of Sharing Vore Gone?" thread.

[C-B-A]

vore is a fetish not an orientation.

no one needs to know.

[XDDX]

I have never ever had a bad reaction. And the people who knows about it thinks it rather amusing. When my sister and I was audio chatting with two of her friends them stark to talk about eating people (This was just an coincident. Lol) And my sister said "My sister actually likes stuff like that" and they start to talk about ways to eat me. (It was two guys so I really didn't mind ) Stuff like this happens on a regular basis. This is not the first time.

It's cool when people don't take stuff to serious. That is how life should be in general to

Yay! I'm not the only silly person in this thread \o/

[blergle]

I told my spouse and the response was a thoughtful "Okay. Hm." Nothing more was mentioned. I think it's just not a concern, nor an interest there.

I told my mother, because we have always had very open discussions about every aspect of sex. She asked questions because she is very curious and scientifically minded, and has a degree in psychology. She thought it was interesting. No negative or positive opinion there.

I told my best friend and after sharing a few links and images, have created a new vore fan. xD

[Fairin]

my brother found out while being a douche and reading my messages. however he thinks vore is short for voyeur. ignorance is bliss i guess...

[Mecho]

Yay! I'm not the only silly person in this thread \o/

Well. What can I say. People take vore way to serious. C'mon! It's not a big deal. It's harmless and actually a pretty silly fetish. (In a good way

[Sorniyamiro]

Well, never had any negative experience when sharing my feelings/thoughts in that matter, but of course I don't go out and yell it to the world xP
I believe that one should only share it, if it's really necessary. For instance when you love someone or you have a very close friendship, where you want the other one to 'really' know you. If I wouldn't be so careful about it, I think I'd get many negative reactions. If you accidently tell it to the wrong person, your life can be ruined.

[Saftkeur]

I've told a few friends, myself. Being pretty much just a fetish artist at this point (I used to focus mostly on fantasy scenes, but fetishes proved to be a bit more fun and are so far paying better), that makes it a lot easier to share with fellow artists; yes, it's not much of a secret that I'm into most of the stuff I feature in my art, but it gives the admission a bit more of a purpose rather than a simple "hey, here's something weird about me that you didn't need to know".

For the question of "how can you tell if someone is okay with it", well... you can't, not entirely. But you can usually figure if they're open to hearing about it. More often than not, I've admitted this stuff to friends after discussions had already led to the topic of sexuality, psychology and fetishes; I've only had two times where it didn't go well, and those were both instances where I'd asked if they wanted to know the sort of fetish art I made and they said they'd rather not (so they both still don't know I'm into vore). For the others, I made sure the topic was never jammed into their face, and tested the waters first, so to speak.
The simple question would be something along the lines of "hey, what do you think of the vore fetish?", but that's a tricky one to work into a conversation; you also need to consider that people will unconsciously or even consciously choose their responses based on what they think you're expecting, so there's the chance they'll think you're throwing out weird subjects so you can both poke fun at them. ("hey, did you see that TV show about the guy who had sex with his car?!" sort of thing; a natural response would be "wow, yeah I did! What a weirdo!", not "oh yeah, I can totally relate to that guy!")

So basically, I'd just say, people shouldn't blurt that stuff out if the discussion isn't right for it. There's lots of ways to test someone's boundaries in a conversation and get a feel for how open they might be; you don't blindside people with stuff like that. And just consider why you'd want to tell them and how you'd expect to interact with them about it afterwards, and decide from there if it's a good idea at all. Are they judgmental towards others, do they express interest in other darker or sexual topics, etc etc...

[XDDX]

Yay! I'm not the only silly person in this thread \o/

Well. What can I say. People take vore way to serious. C'mon! It's not a big deal. It's harmless and actually a pretty silly fetish. (In a good way

[Indighost]

I have had one posite experience (slow rollout to gf, she got into it with time and enjoyed it) and one super negative e experience (vore friend recommended I share it relatively early with a girl I was dating, caused an instantaneous freak out and dump.)

I think that it depends on your situation . Some people 8 some situations can be more judgmental than others, you can learn this by getting to know people over time.