Vorearephilia - openness

[Kali]

I guess the trick can be figuring out who exactly is good, honest, and trustworthy. Few people come forward telling you exactly how much they pry and gossip about your personal life, including sexual partners.

^This.

[caramelapple7050]

Just two years ago, I couldn't really imagine myself telling anyone about it at all- but, what do you know- I have.
An ex-boyfriend- we were together on-and-off for about three years, and I didn't want to keep it a secret from him. I never did go into specifics, though- and nor did we ever incorporate anything to do with it into our fun time. He wouldn't have minded, but I didn't want to.

Do I fear being 'outed'? Hell, yeah. Especially by my family. That is one conversation I never want to have.

[RuffledFerret]

My story is silly. I mentioned me having a fetish to my friends, who I assumed would let it go after I initially refused to tell them, but they continued questioning and asking for hints for weeks after. It eventually became a 20 questions-type game (my friends love puzzles), and it all finally came to a close one night.
Curiosity ran serious one weekend, and the possible candidates were narrowed down through "scenarios that occur in various forms of media," "scenarios that can happen in video games," "video games that we play," "Super Smash Bros.," "specific attacks," and finally all the way down to "Yoshi." At this point I was literally curled into a ball on the couch covering my face because the fear of my secret finally coming out finally began to set in. As frequent internet users, they each had a vast knowledge of the strange or taboo subjects typically found online, so by this point they pretty much had me trapped and began naming specific fetishes. Finally, one of them asked if it was vore. I muttered, "shit," under my breath, expecting the worst assumptions and misunderstandings to be perceived, though after a brief, nonspecific explanation and multiple statements of "it's fine, dude," "we don't think any lesser of you," "nothing's changed between us," and etc., the night progressed normally onwards as if nothing had ever happened.
I've questioned myself as to why I ever let them talk me out of it or why I had never just flat out refused to ever tell them. Part of it was a competitive side that thought they would never figure it out, but another part of me sort of "wanted" them to know. I have no friends in the vore community, so I never had anyone with whom to really discuss this stuff. Obviously, I never intend on going into full detail (specific turn-ons/offs) with them, nor do they ever question it beyond its existence, but it still feels nice knowing that there are a few people close to me who know. I feel like our friendship has really grown following this.
As for any serious relationships I find myself in in the future, I feel my partner should know (all cards on the table and whatnot), but I would never ask them to try any sort of roleplaying or fantasy scenario that they were not comfortable with, or tell them any more than they wanted to hear. My family, on the other hand, can absolutely never know. No matter how I explained it to them, they are the types of mindsets that would never understand.

[4ofSwords]

I'm about as open as I feel people are comfortable with. I'm not immune to concerns that people would judge me for it, but where I am in life, that's more of an intellectual concern than an emotional concern. The blowback, I believe, would have a lot more to do with me worry about what other people think than it would be any substantial negative repercussions or relationship disruptions.

But, generally speaking, I don't wear it on my sleeve because it's a topic of conversation that makes other people uncomfortable. If the topic comes up, or someone asks, sure. But in my facet of western culture, sex, sexual interests, and sexual deviancy are considered uncomfortable subjects. To me it's about on part with talking about my favorite position, or describing my favorite memory in bed.

But a big part of being open about it is knowing the right way to talk to someone about it, too. I wouldn't be likely to throw out the "I'm a voriphile" card, and start using jargon and in-language to describe it. I'd describe it in terms of domination, of bondage, and say that my *fantasy* runs even deeper than that. If they want to know more, I'd describe more.

That said, it's probably a LOT easier to be relaxed about conversations like that when I'm married, and not anticipating ever dating again. I can appreciate that some people might be worried about tainting future relationship prospects if rumors of their fetish proceeded them.

[dude_man79]

Not one of my friends know. They do know that I'm into feet and food play. I'll just keep the rest a secret.

[greyfeather]

I don't tell a soul.

[Artemis]

Most of my friends are aware of my love of vore on some level. I'm pretty open about it, to be frank. Here's the thing about that though. I'm about about it... in private.

The only reason I have a dedicated vore handle to keep my vore art and stuff seperate is so that people won't accidentally find vore if they decide to say, google my normal alias or something. That's the only reason. I'm fine with people knowing, I'm fine with people being dicks when I tell them, I'm fine with people not understanding it but only if I made the choice to tell them. (Or they made the choice to look it up.)

It would be a lot more upsetting for me if someone accidentally found out, was a dick about it and I wasn't ready to tell them to begin with.

I tell almost everyone eventually though. It's a matter of when and how I'm comfortable with doing it. Different personalities require different levels of tact when approaching the subject. As a result of the way I handle it most people take the reveal very well, and the worst I get is usually people that just aren't interested. (I avoid/disarm the dicks.)

[MelancholyClownD]

I'm not open with anybody irl. I feel like I'd be ostracized, made fun of or be viewed as a creep. However i do think my father,aunt and my friend are aware of my fetish. When i was younger i would forget to clear my browsing history on my aunts laptop(i didnt have my own computer at that time). So i remember my aunt would joke around and say she saw my browsing history. I felt embarrassed. :L

When my dad finally brought home a computer. I'd do the same mistake but on my YouTube account. I didn't even know they had a search & browsing history. When my father thought i was asleep, i sneaked quietly to the computer which was in our dining room but i see my dad on there looking at the same vore videos i did. He just had this poker face on like he was disappointed. From there on i started to clear my tracks.

Onto my friend, When he came over to my house he'd go on my computer. Sometimes I forgot to delete my bookmarks or vore pics that i saved on my computer i didn't see it but im pretty sure he saw them because the next time he came over. He'd click to see the bookmarks or look up where i download pics but i remembered to delete them. So one point for me!

[mrcactus747]

My partner wouldn't understand of what I am doing on Deviantart.com. I like to look at pictures of clothed or semi-clothed and sometimes naked females getting eaten. He thinks that I am looking at porno. so I have to do it alone. My best friend thinks that vore is sexy. I will deal with her when time comes. My family knows nothing about my fetish, and also I have another fetish of getting clothes shredded in water, being eaten by cow/goats, and being flushed away in large drains. (toilet or drain vore) and also clothes's movement in water.

[Silent_E]

The only person in the world who knows I'm a voraphile is me. Like most of the posters before me, I just don't see the point in letting anyone else know. I'm also hilariously paranoid about people finding the vore art I've made on this computer... hidden behind a maze of folders on a secondary hard drive in a folder titled "New Folder"... Yeah.

I plan on keeping the fact that I'm a fetish artist and also a voraphile a closely guarded secret... even though for the past couple of months the only thing I've been working on is fetish art... a friend of mine (And fellow artist) keeps pressuring me to draw more, but I've got nothing I really care to show off even though I feel like I've outdone myself with my last couple of pieces. What tangled webs we weave.

[vored123]

I'm noticing that a lot of people have said they'd be most against having the conversation with their family. It's funny - I feel like I could talk it down to the point of acceptability with anyone but a family member.
I think it's kind of funny that, at least where I am, a very "progressive" and liberal college campus, I would also abhor word of my fetish getting out unbeknownst to me. I feel like all of those kids who were yesterday extolling "sex positivity" on social media would tomorrow be calling me a creep to their friends.
Does anyone here fancy themselves a "sexual minority?" It's occurred to me that I'd probably qualify as one, but I don't care for the label nor the mindset.

[Wolfwood]

The trick to being open about it is simple. If people try to goat me on it, I shall hit back with explaining exactly what I like about vore in graphic detail
It's something I love, so I'll happily talk about it for hours on end.
Watch how quickly the uncomfortable gloves change hands Mhuhahahahahaha!

I could also ruin many moments for my friends by saying "Fuck that's hot!" during moments in shows or movies where people are eaten in a cartoony or horror fashion.
Mood Killer ^^

It'll become best for them to avoid mentioning it altogether

[vored123]

The trick to being open about it is simple. If people try to goat me on it, I shall hit back with explaining exactly what I like about vore in graphic detail
It's something I love, so I'll happily talk about it for hours on end.
Watch how quickly the uncomfortable gloves change hands Mhuhahahahahaha!

I could also ruin many moments for my friends by saying "Fuck that's hot!" during moments in shows or movies where people are eaten in a cartoony or horror fashion.
Mood Killer ^^

It'll become best for them to avoid mentioning it altogether

Go for the jugular: stare at them while they eat

[ThrobbertDarwin]

I'm noticing that a lot of people have said they'd be most against having the conversation with their family. It's funny - I feel like I could talk it down to the point of acceptability with anyone but a family member.
I think it's kind of funny that, at least where I am, a very "progressive" and liberal college campus, I would also abhor word of my fetish getting out unbeknownst to me. I feel like all of those kids who were yesterday extolling "sex positivity" on social media would tomorrow be calling me a creep to their friends.
Does anyone here fancy themselves a "sexual minority?" It's occurred to me that I'd probably qualify as one, but I don't care for the label nor the mindset.

SJW are only accepting of people so long as they're on their side, doublethink at its finest. And no, we're not a minority of any kind, just degenerate fetishists.

The trick to being open about it is simple. If people try to goat me on it, I shall hit back with explaining exactly what I like about vore in graphic detail
It's something I love, so I'll happily talk about it for hours on end.
Watch how quickly the uncomfortable gloves change hands Mhuhahahahahaha!

I could also ruin many moments for my friends by saying "Fuck that's hot!" during moments in shows or movies where people are eaten in a cartoony or horror fashion.
Mood Killer ^^

It'll become best for them to avoid mentioning it altogether

Pretty sure that's just giving them more fuel...

[Artemis]

I feel the need to elaborate. I am not open with my family about this. This is a special exception to my generally open policy and for one specific and simple reason.

There's literally nothing to gain by telling them. With my family I can just sort of assume a lack of interest by virtue of them being family. I couldn't RP with them or even share the things I love with them. There is zero risk of them finding out because my computers are strictly private and owned strictly by me, so it's not like I'm stressing about it.

And I don't tell my offline friends because A) I don't have any and B) I don't like having offline friends in general, for reasons.

[Wolfwood]

Pretty sure that's just giving them more fuel...

Not at all. It takes it away from them. Shameless enjoyment is wonderful ^_^
Same approach I take to having Anime take over my house. I never sacrifice my hobbies or things I enjoy because someone else might be disturbed by it.

I also like disturbing people. Double win ^^
I won't go around bragging about it. But if it's found out or comes up, I'll own it

[DragonSky700]

Most of my friends know about it, and I'm very happy that it doesn't make any difference to them. It feels good to not have to hide the kinds of things I enjoy drawing, especially considering the vore I draw is pretty tame compared to some of the stuff you can find x3

[Superblah]

I share the unpopular opinion on ekas that fetishes are not an identity. Its one thing to tell your friends and family you are into BDSM if you are trying to introduce your new owner who will have most control over your behavior. but vore is a fetish that is unlikely to affect peoples day to day life. I think in order for it to be pertinant to tell people who are not already interested in knowing you would have to have it come up some how, maybe you draw vore art as part of your job and its too difficult to hide for your roommate. maybe you are seriously suicidal enough to want to really dive in to a snake's stomach. Vore offers very little situations where it needs to be told, these on their own are already huge stretches of logic. for example, a lock and some headphones is all one needs to keep a room mate out when you're drawing.

The only person I've ever told about being a voreaphile is also comfortable enough to share porn with me.

[darksign13]

My best friends know, but "kinks" isn't a conversation I bring up too often in other company.

[JamesJMH91]

The only person I feel comfortable in real life talking to about my sexual fantasies is my psychologist