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Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Mon Mar 31, 2014 8:56 am

You know, having been surrounded by some unwanted negativity lately, I feel like I would be giving those people what they wanted if I were to stop doing what I love. I need to grow a thicker skin.

Everyone gets down sometimes - I mean, that's a part of life. We have our good days and bad days, good weeks and bad weeks.

The truth is, I received some anonymous hate on tumblr last week (not related to this fetish) and it really put a huge roadblock into EVERYTHING I was working on. I felt awful. Someone had decided to kick me when I was already down and the nerve to call my friends and followers there "groupies".

And it didn't end there, either. A few days later, I was talking on Skype with someone from this site who told me that they never fave/comment my stuff here anymore because they're jealous of me and think it's unfair and it "hurts" that new artists like me get a lot of attention/comments. I tried to change the subject, because I was feeling uncomfortable and awkward as hell, but they kept going back to it as if to drill into my head that I should feel guilty for it, even when it's out of my hands how much people do or don't comment.

For awhile, I considered just dropping and quitting everything and giving these people what they wanted. But when I stopped to think about it... the anon person is someone I don't even know - so why should their opinion matter? The other person - I thought we were getting to be friends, but at least now I know the truth of what really mattered to them and what they really think of me. Anyone who tries to make you unhappy/uncomfortable with yourself is not a good influence. And someone who wanted to be friends with you wouldn't try to make you feel like crap over sharing your work and people enjoying it. I don't need help to feel bad about myself. And I shouldn't let a few people dictate what I do and what I love. Especially people like that.

So I'm going to suck it up and keep truckin'. I've been having LOADS of fun with my new capture device to record Wii footage to post on YouTube and I've got some sketches that I let just die on paper after scanned them (including a vore one!) since that's when my mood and my motivation basically hit bottom for awhile. I need to pick this stuff back up. I'm going to be a year older in about a week and I don't want to start it off on a bad note.

Thanks to all of you who have been supportive of me (whether my art/contributions or just in general). I really appreciate it. I hope we get to know each other better and rest assured that no matter how many downs and bad days or bouts of depression I have, I'll get back to my feet and try again. I've always been a fighter.
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby Damsel on Mon Mar 31, 2014 11:03 am

Glad to hear you're better. I can't believe the nerve of some people. Envy is such an ugly thing. They should appreciate your art not hate on you for having talent.
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby MrPandaBear on Mon Mar 31, 2014 11:44 am

Good to hear your oing better. If they don't like your art, no one's making them view it! it's just a part of life, and keep the spirits up! C:
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Mon Mar 31, 2014 12:50 pm

Damsel wrote:Glad to hear you're better. I can't believe the nerve of some people. Envy is such an ugly thing. They should appreciate your art not hate on you for having talent.


They didn't actually hate on me. In fact, they said they were different from the haters because they genuinely thought I had talent and wanted to be 'that good'. But it's like, if you really thought that, why would you hold it against me in the first place? Why would you tell me all of this at once and talk about deleting your Eka's gallery and literally rant at me about how unfair it is that people like me get more attention than you? Do you want me to put a footnote on all of my submissions that says "please don't comment on this or you'll make someone else who doesn't want me to get so many comments upset"?

What really cheesed me off is that I had a look at their stuff and the comments and they don't get none or even just a little - they get quite a few! And they don't even REPLY to some of their comments. But I could easily see that they had supporters. It's like, how much is ENOUGH for you?? Does crunching the exact number of comments really matter that much?

Envy is an ugly thing, I agree. Everyone's guilty of it sometimes, but it's you who decides how to handle your envy and whether or not it consumes you to the point of being passive-aggressive and resentful. I don't have time to deal with people like that.
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby Rac0r on Mon Mar 31, 2014 1:59 pm

I do have to admit that sometimes watching someone else's art can make me bit jealous, BUT never do I go and tell them to stop being so good at it and leave! As a matter of fact, I take it as part of motivation to improve, that maybe one day I'll be perhaps as good or even close to be as good.
Some people just make no kind of sense. Ranting and bitching about it ain't going to help them to get more attention, yet still they keep going on with it. I guess negative attitude makes them happy...
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby Zienzo on Mon Mar 31, 2014 2:10 pm

That's the spirit. ^^

And oooo Wii gameplay.
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby hunter1243 on Mon Mar 31, 2014 2:14 pm

hey, don't let others tell you what you can and cant do, if you want to do it and you like to do it then do it!
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby HeroSoulSword on Mon Mar 31, 2014 2:17 pm

Ignore those lowlifes. You shouldn't even consider what they say. Only accept what your true friends say, as they really care about how you feel. I learned that lesson... the hard way... but I'm glad to see that you're not gonna let it drag you down. Just blow them off, don't even listen to what they have to say. You're a great person, don't ever doubt it, so listening and arguing with them is a waste of time and oxygen. Just hold your head up high and do what you love, even if others don't approve. It's your life, not theirs, so you can do what you want. But kudos for your resolve to just keep going.
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Mon Mar 31, 2014 4:36 pm

Rac0r wrote:I do have to admit that sometimes watching someone else's art can make me bit jealous, BUT never do I go and tell them to stop being so good at it and leave! As a matter of fact, I take it as part of motivation to improve, that maybe one day I'll be perhaps as good or even close to be as good.
Some people just make no kind of sense. Ranting and bitching about it ain't going to help them to get more attention, yet still they keep going on with it. I guess negative attitude makes them happy...


They didn't tell me to stop doing it or leave. At least, not the one from this site. But they were being very passive-aggressive. It was strange, 'cause they would tell me that my art was really good but then have to add over and over that they were jealous and how it wasn't fair that I had more comments/attention, etc. It wasn't hateful, but it was spiteful and I feel like they were giving me back-handed compliments. I'm unfortunately never going to be able to view that person the same way. I just hope I can actually make some real friends around here who aren't going to be seething at me and resentful of me behind my back. Finding people who will really support you is more difficult than it sounds. Outside of this site, though, I have a couple really good friends and I wouldn't trade them for the world. They've always supported me no matter what and never tried to make me feel guilty about my art or over something getting attention.
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby SLR on Mon Mar 31, 2014 5:42 pm

Depression is a bastard. I'm glad you're standing up to it, and the people trying to take advantage of it. I'm sorry I've not been quite so vocal in my support of late; I just moved into a new flat and haven't had an internet connection for a few weeks.
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Re: Can't Let it Get Ya Down

Permanent Linkby grassleaves on Mon Mar 31, 2014 5:59 pm

That's harsh. I can understand why it would get you feeling low. But you've chosen not to give up on what you want. That is your decision. Letting go when you've had your fill of something, that's your decision. Being driven from it by hard feelings or bad blood; that is also your decision, but the reasons are coming from other people, not you. Glad to know you'll still be with us, that you still enjoy your own work enough not to let someone else make the decision for you. Good luck with whatever comes next.
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