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Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Tue Jul 15, 2014 9:30 pm

Sometimes, I really wonder where my interest in female submission and vore really came from and why it’s become such a big part of my kink life.

I won’t say I’m a feminist, exactly, but I’ve always been a strong believer in equal rights and opportunities, and disgusted with men who treat women like trash. I hate the idea of “Nice Guys” and women being pressed to conform to how sexualized we’ve become in society. Hate and crimes against women and discrimination are the fastest way to get me to turn the other way or speak up against it.

But carry over to something sexual or in the bedroom, or on the realm of fantasy, and… basically, I find nothing to be more appealing or attractive than a dominant and even cruel man, who is basically willing to do anything to get what he wants. I’ve always associated predators with males—physically stronger, more prone to using force. And something about that fantasy of predatory men just clicks all the right buttons with me, though I’d never associate with my real life perception of gender equality. But in role-play and fantasy, it hits all the right chords in all the right ways.

I avoided my interest in vore that reared its head when I was young. As a young Catholic girl, I thought that my own thoughts were wrong and that I would get in trouble if I didn’t suppress them. I was terrified of what interested me. And it wasn’t until the last year or two that I embraced that part of me. And it fit so well with my fantasy of a dominant, possessive man. It’s like the two basically meshed to make a super-kink. And that’s not even an exaggeration. Nothing makes me feel the way that M/F vore does, especially the kind of that specific nature.

The other strange thing is that I don’t envision myself in it. I might one day in the future if I became comfortable enough with a partner that I knew wouldn’t judge me based on it. But otherwise, I just want to be looking in from the outside. Perhaps that’s linked to just how sexy I find male mouths and throats, and the idea of rubbing their belly and belching after their female prey is consumed and completely theirs. But I also like the idea of the struggling prey trapped in the stomach, throat, or mouth, too—-being toyed with, swallowed, talked down to… and still fighting back throughout. I’m definitely not a fan of weak-willed prey or willing. I love conflict—-that’s another thing my vore and submission kinks thrive on. The submission isn’t willing, but forced upon them as they fight tooth and nail not to give in.

Regardless of how my interest and appeal was born and grew over time, though, there’s just no denying it now. And it feels really good to accept that side to myself and feel OK with being myself while still being a strong-willed individual who isn’t afraid to speak her mind day-to-day.

[Note: If you saw this on tumblr already, I apologize. But I haven't updated my blog in forever, so I thought I could post it here to share, as well.]

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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Humbug on Tue Jul 15, 2014 10:24 pm

I'm glad you've grown so comfortable with this stuff. I think being able to just say, "Yeah. This is who I am" is one of the most liberating things there is, especially when you've got something so strange to include in that definition.
So yeah. Good on ya for being able to be open about all of this. :)
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby RorschachR on Wed Jul 16, 2014 10:57 am

Feminism and submission in the bedroom aren't mutually exclusive! I suggest checking out submissivefeminist, they're largely about BDSM type stuff but the principle is the same.
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Wed Jul 16, 2014 1:01 pm

Humbug wrote:I'm glad you've grown so comfortable with this stuff. I think being able to just say, "Yeah. This is who I am" is one of the most liberating things there is, especially when you've got something so strange to include in that definition.
So yeah. Good on ya for being able to be open about all of this. :)


It definitely is. Even in first joining the community, I wasn't sure how I would feel about being open with what I liked---especially when it had an active disliking in the vore community. But I'm glad I took the plunge, because even finding a few people that I can relate to and talk about this interest with is a hundred times better than thinking about it and having doubts about whether or not I was a normal person.
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Wed Jul 16, 2014 1:04 pm

RorschachR wrote:Feminism and submission in the bedroom aren't mutually exclusive! I suggest checking out submissivefeminist, they're largely about BDSM type stuff but the principle is the same.


Oh, I know they're not! I'm just more surprised at myself for fitting into that niche. Likewise, I have a pretty big BDSM fetish that I didn't acknowledge for a long time, as well, though that wasn't nearly as far-fetched and out there as vore, so I had an easier time accepting that.
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby nephilim on Wed Jul 16, 2014 2:03 pm

RorschachR wrote:Feminism and submission in the bedroom aren't mutually exclusive! I suggest checking out submissivefeminist, they're largely about BDSM type stuff but the principle is the same.


You hit the nail on the head. Feminism and submission aren't mutually exclusive.
In fact, I'd wager that a woman's penchant for sexual submission is smack-dab right in the middle of the 'normal sexuality' bell curve.
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Imrhys on Thu Jul 17, 2014 1:57 pm

I can relate to growing up with repressed issues. Between being punished in school for writing fantasy stuff or being punished at home for messing with the child's crap and homo stuff, as fantasy was considered in my house, to being all but born fetish laddened... But I met some people IRL by 25 that I was able to let certain things out for years, and then I found online communities like this one and some BDSM communities and friends...

And yes, feminism and submission can go hand-in-hand for some, lol. I know female subs quite militant about women's rights, etc. Being submissive dues not equal being a rug for everyone to walk over. It means you give yourself willingly to someone you trust to do with you wonderfully kinky, playful, dirty, awwwwwful things *chuckles* while respecting you, honoring your giving yourself to them, and who at the best of situations, loves you dearly.

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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby SLR on Thu Jul 17, 2014 4:37 pm

I'm glad you feel happy about having these fantasies and feelings. I wish I could say the same thing. I still feel very guilty for being into vore and S&M, and I expect part of me always will. I have similar thoughts regarding gender equality to you, and I find it impossible to reconcile my stance there with the fact that women being treated as food turns me on. At the same time, I find it impossible to deny, or to avoid. So I end up enjoying myself looking at art, reading stories, or just imagining it in my own head, only to feel profound shame once the moment of arousal has reached it's inevitable conclusion (for a man).
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Fri Jul 18, 2014 8:24 am

Imrhys wrote:I can relate to growing up with repressed issues. Between being punished in school for writing fantasy stuff or being punished at home for messing with the child's crap and homo stuff, as fantasy was considered in my house, to being all but born fetish laddened... But I met some people IRL by 25 that I was able to let certain things out for years, and then I found online communities like this one and some BDSM communities and friends...

And yes, feminism and submission can go hand-in-hand for some, lol. I know female subs quite militant about women's rights, etc. Being submissive dues not equal being a rug for everyone to walk over. It means you give yourself willingly to someone you trust to do with you wonderfully kinky, playful, dirty, awwwwwful things *chuckles* while respecting you, honoring your giving yourself to them, and who at the best of situations, loves you dearly.

Or so my experience in D/s has gone >_>


Yeah, the internet definitely played a big role in helping me learn that there were a lot of people out there who were similar to me, so I didn't feel as weird anymore. And I've met some great friends that way, even if I've never been able to meet them IRL yet.

I understand that those two things can go together and harmonize, but I suppose I just never saw it in me. There's multiple reasons that I won't get into that made me believe I'd never be that type, much less find enjoyment out of it. But I guess I ended up proving myself wrong. lol I haven't been able to delve into any D/S communities or anything like that, though. I'm getting better about speaking my mind, but I'm still wary of new communities/groups of people.
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Fri Jul 18, 2014 8:32 am

SLR wrote:I'm glad you feel happy about having these fantasies and feelings. I wish I could say the same thing. I still feel very guilty for being into vore and S&M, and I expect part of me always will. I have similar thoughts regarding gender equality to you, and I find it impossible to reconcile my stance there with the fact that women being treated as food turns me on. At the same time, I find it impossible to deny, or to avoid. So I end up enjoying myself looking at art, reading stories, or just imagining it in my own head, only to feel profound shame once the moment of arousal has reached it's inevitable conclusion (for a man).


I do feel guilty about it sometimes. I think the reason I escape some of the guilt is because I never actually see myself in it or imagine people I know IRL involved in it. Since it's purely on a fantasy level for me, I find it easier not to be disgusted with myself too much. I have many years worth of fantasizing characters with all sorts of things, even outside of vore.

I understand where you're coming from, though. But to be honest? From my POV, I find the way that female preds are depicted and worshiped like sexual objects to be the biggest turn off of all time. 90% of them have breasts larger than life, act sexual and sultry, and to me, are just an extension of what media makes women out to be. Whereas I find the women that are often involved in M/F vore as prey tend to be less like that and more like normal women with thoughts and feelings that aren't just hunger and sex (not in ALL cases, but in many!), especially as portrayed by women themselves.

But I digress... we enjoy what we enjoy and there's no harm in that. We have preferences and opinions and even if they're not of the majority, that doesn't make them wrong.
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Re: Musings about Kinks and Vore

Permanent Linkby Indighost on Fri Jul 18, 2014 4:30 pm

I have read surveys that show 90% of women prefer to be the submissive partner in a relationship, while around 50% of men do. My personal experience has co firned this. In other words you're totally normal. And you can see why men who prefer submission experience more romantic failure and spend lots of time in fantasy. Feminists often overlook this fact but it's important to know.

I'm also going to out on a limb and say that since men and women are different it is natural for them to have different experiences and different opportunities.
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