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Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Sat Dec 14, 2013 9:10 pm

I can't prove this person was from Eka's, but... the timing makes me think it must have been, since this happened right after I outspokenly gave my age in a thread here.

I got a random IM just a little while ago, from someone not on my list. It only listed their e-mail address as a name and my guess is that it was probably someone's fake or dummy account, made specifically just to message me and insult me.

Over my age.

Look, if anyone is so damn disappointed that I'm 28 years old, then that's your problem, not mine. And frankly, you're not worth my time. I've never even hidden that fact. It says it right on my profile! If that's "gross" to you or "like my mother on a fetish site", then why do you feel the need to message me just to be a rude jackass about it?

I'm really starting to dislike this site. I feel like someone or perhaps even multiple people want to chase me out of here. Is it because of my liking for M/F? Or perhaps the fact that I don't fit into your fantasy of predator women who are dominatrixes because I relate to prey? Because I'm outspoken instead of sitting on the sidelines?

I'm not sorry for what I've posted here, nor for speaking up for male preds who have had problems in the past, or for being active and taking part in things here in general. And I'm not sorry for what I like, either. And there's nothing I can do about my age. But for god's sake, can you leave the fuck alone? I have no idea who would go the extra mile to tell me nasty things over IM, but they must despise me quite a lot.

The amount of immaturity here never fails to astound me.

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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby the_game on Sat Dec 14, 2013 9:19 pm

Ain't life in Eka's grand?

Yea sorry about that... honestly there's a large part of the.community that's in dire need of euthanasia, but nothing will be done. Eka's is not the bastion others have preached to other places, make no mistake in thinking such.
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby Bitter on Sat Dec 14, 2013 9:30 pm

If someone thinks a 28-year-old being here is like their mother being on a fetish site... they probably aren't old enough to be here themselves.
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby Indighost on Sat Dec 14, 2013 9:36 pm

I'm astounded too. I had no idea that sort of negative stuff happened as a result of people being here. I've had over-eager fans and terrible rp partners, and I've heard that other people quit due to problmes with that, but what you describe is just pointless negativity. I have to say, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't tolerate that sort of thing. Maybe you can block unsolicited IMs?

Meanwhile, I'd add that it's probably safer to not reveal any info about yourself online unless it's privately with someone who you have known for many years.
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Sat Dec 14, 2013 9:53 pm

the_game wrote:Ain't life in Eka's grand?

Yea sorry about that... honestly there's a large part of the.community that's in dire need of euthanasia, but nothing will be done. Eka's is not the bastion others have preached to other places, make no mistake in thinking such.


I have admitted disappointment in things that have happened here over my few months being here. It seems that most who think in the immature ways tend to band with tons of others just like them, though. I did contact a mod once about the immaturity issues and such and basically they said nothing could be done about it. That kind of makes me wonder how many other people have left because they can't deal with the community here.

Bitter wrote:If someone thinks a 28-year-old being here is like their mother being on a fetish site... they probably aren't old enough to be here themselves.


Considering this site is for adults, I didn't think older age would be a hot topic here. Anyway, I've gotten the feeling that there are some people around who aren't 18+, but on the internet, there's pretty much no way to prove anything.

Indighost wrote:I'm astounded. I had no idea that sort of negative stuff happened as a result of people being here. I've had over-eager fans, and I've heard that other people quit due to problmes with that, but what you describe is just pointless negativity. I have to say, if I were in your shoes, I wouldn't tolerate that sort of thing. Maybe you can block unsolicited IMs?

...However, I do have a friend who operates as an 'undercover vore fan' because of something similar to what you mentioned, a while ago, so I guess I it does happen. I'm very sorry that it has happened though, since I've really enjoyed your submissions and would wish that you stay around.


This is the first time I've been outright IMed JUST to be insulted. I've had RP issues and other things, but now I really get the feeling that I've already garnered some hate from people here in the few months I've been on this site. I don't know if I'm being viewed as some kind of threat or annoyance or what. But yeah, as for blocking IMs, I don't think I can. If I was using an actual AIM client, I probably could, but I use it through a service called Pidgin. I can't even ADD people unless they message me first. It's really annoying.

I don't have any plans to leave yet. I just feel that if I do, more of these lesser represented sections of vore aren't going to get the attention and representation they deserve. I'm no stranger to opposition, since I've been in fandoms since my teen years and have more than once liked something or someone that most of fandom did not and received shit for it. So for the time being, I'll press on. To balance these negative messages and responses, I've also had some positive ones, particularly from those who enjoy the same types of things and can't find much of them. I felt the same way when I first really delved into the vore communities. And my policy has always been that if there isn't enough of something you like, you have to take steps to add to that number yourself. It still sucks for things like this to happen, but they're in for disappointment if they think that's going to chase me off completely.
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby Indighost on Sat Dec 14, 2013 10:00 pm

That's a really admirable sentiment. I wish you the best and I hope to read more stories from you. And I agree with you that the best response to a bully is to ignore them and keep doing your thing.

I use Pidgin as well. When I get an unsolicited chat, it asks me for confirmation first. And you can add people with it. Try playing around with the options.


For example, there's an option to "allow contact by only the users on my buddy list".
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby Moebius on Sat Dec 14, 2013 11:08 pm

I know is not the point of the post, but...what the hell? How can someone in the world be upseat of you having 28? I mean, is no one problem if you have 60, but I can't even think why someone could have a problem with 28 0.o

And I fully suport your policy, I hope this...."people"...don't get in the way of your artwork!
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby Lumesa on Sat Dec 14, 2013 11:15 pm

I think you probably have one person (MAYBE two people) who hate you BECAUSE you're outspoken and for no other reason, they just stalk you and insult you in whatever way they think will hit at the time. I've never seen a person get ganged-up against just for the sentiments you've expressed, so I can only imagine some headassing misogynist thinks you should shut your womanly mouth. My suggestion, of course, is to fight fire with fire––INSULT THEM IN EVERY WAY POSSIBLE. Don't even make sense about it, just chafe their balls until they either tuck-tail and vanish or call in their "army" (which might be five people, max, on a site like this where most folks barely make friends because they're cockshot turtlers with no knowledge of the light beyond their shell), then block all the army without a word.

I did this one time when I was "bullied" by a bunch of weirdo teens. It worked perfectly. Took probably a day and a half.
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby unknownwolf on Sat Dec 14, 2013 11:20 pm

You can't let people like that get to you. They are always going to be there, no matter where you go or what you do. Heck, i get a ton of hate from people here just because i like to draw M/F situations too. It is a really bashed thing to draw or even make blog posts about here, but i am not going anywhere. Personally I love that fact that you draw it, and so well too.
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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby F1reDem0n on Sat Dec 14, 2013 11:31 pm

I know that the internet is a privilege and not a right, but geez. You would think that people who are part of and attending a Adult based site would actually act like..you know? Adults? Act with understanding, maturity, and kindness. Not like little brats and 5 years old's. It's like some people who go on the internet suddenly turn on "Be and act like a Jerk Mode" and start to act much younger then their actual age. I wish people in the world could all get along and be at peace. Yes there at group of people who get along and understand one another. Butt those are just groups of people and not every single person. *sigh*, I guess that is just part of being part of a race that does not always understand one another.

I just hope you are ok Chameleonette. I know what it's like to be bullied and made fun of for something you like and for who you are. I had to deal with it all through K-12. I never got a break from it, and even now I get made fun of. Even so I do what I can to keep moving forward (Toyota Reference??), but when I need them I look to those I care dear about. Those who understand me and who I am. Like family and friends. Those who will support me through the thick, and the thin.

Plus, I believe that there are MANY people who are here to support you, including me. I really do like you art work and enjoy see what you have to offer to the vore community. Maybe we can talk sometime. Let me know!

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Re: Okay, what the HELL?

Permanent Linkby SohmaKitsune on Sat Dec 14, 2013 11:48 pm

It takes all types, I suppose. I just turned 29 at the beginning of the month, and I've still got some friends who refer to me as "the baby of the group". So some ignorant juveniles want to haggle you over being 28? Who cares about their input? As long as you are happy and get to share your art with those who will appreciate it and not judge you for anything trivial like your age or anything, then that's all that should matter. There's an old saying I like: "Wolves don't lose sleep over the opinions of sheep."
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