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Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Wed Aug 14, 2019 11:09 am

I just want to take a moment to thank those on my commissions reserves for being patient.

I know I didn't update about it here, because it was such shocking news and I've been fretting since and having difficulty focusing on anything for well over a month now, but my mother was unexpectedly diagnosed with Colon Cancer after a colonoscopy. It has been an emotional battle for my entire family and I'm doing what I can to support her and keep her spirits up. Her big surgery that will (hopefully) lead to recovery if it goes well is at the end of this month. She has a heart condition as well, but they're going to have heart surgeons on-hand during the surgery in case anything goes wrong. It's nerve-wracking, but I know she's getting the best care she can get. Recovery will take awhile, as they're actually doing several procedures with this surgery, and potential chemo, but I'm trying to keep faith that she'll make it through this just as my father did in his battle with Leukemia. On top of all of this, I ended up with an infection myself, which took me 3-4 weeks to cure on my own. So that didn't help matters. I wish the stress of everything would just stop and let myself and my family breathe a bit.

After everything has settled down, I hope to get my head back in the game. Thanks again for being patient with me and I apologize for making you wait. I'm continuing the battle against art block, as well, so I can do what I feel is my best work for those awaiting commissions. I'll try to keep some content flowing and upload some newer and older things in the mean time.

I hope that you're all doing well. And if you're struggling as well, then I hope everyone gets a good break and some good news soon.

Let's all hang in there, alright?

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Re: Update

Permanent Linkby HeroSoulSword on Wed Aug 14, 2019 12:32 pm

I know what you're going through, as I went through something very similar myself. They discovered that my mom had developed a cancer polyp near her heart. Luckily, they caught it early, so they removed it before it could cause any real damage, and she had to undergo chemo for a bit, too, though she ended up recovering fine. Then, fairly recently, she had a colonoscopy and they found out that her long-dormant H-Pylori (I think that's how you spell it) had flared up again and was eating her red blood cells, making her very anemic. She had to undergo several very powerful antibiotics that pretty much ravaged her for about three weeks. She's still recovering from all that, so I know how you feel. I wish you and your mother luck, as I know how much stress cancer and other such powerful aliments can destroy one's life. I have faith she'll pull through, and so will you. So, take your time, don't rush, we'll patiently await your return. Good luck and try to keep your chin up.
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Re: Update

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Wed Aug 14, 2019 12:55 pm

HeroSoulSword wrote:I know what you're going through, as I went through something very similar myself. They discovered that my mom had developed a cancer polyp near her heart. Luckily, they caught it early, so they removed it before it could cause any real damage, and she had to undergo chemo for a bit, too, though she ended up recovering fine. Then, fairly recently, she had a colonoscopy and they found out that her long-dormant H-Pylori (I think that's how you spell it) had flared up again and was eating her red blood cells, making her very anemic. She had to undergo several very powerful antibiotics that pretty much ravaged her for about three weeks. She's still recovering from all that, so I know how you feel. I wish you and your mother luck, as I know how much stress cancer and other such powerful aliments can destroy one's life. I have faith she'll pull through, and so will you. So, take your time, don't rush, we'll patiently await your return. Good luck and try to keep your chin up.


I'm really sorry to hear that your mother has been through so much. I'm glad they caught it early so she was able to recover from that. And I wish her the best in her recovery from the newest affliction, too.

They didn't really catch my mother's early, unfortunately. It's a large, cancerous tumor and they have to remove a foot of her large intestine and her appendix. And she's especially put out because she feels just fine and has been taking even better care of herself the last few years after recovering from heart issues, so it's a big hit to her. Plus my mother is one of those people who thinks that if you don't go to the doctor, you don't get sick. It's been rough to actually have to convince her to go through treatment and surgery, because she just wanted to ignore the entire thing and has tried to back out of it several times. I think the big reason she changed her mind is because the doctor told her that it's a horrific way to die if it's left alone. And that colon cancer is called a 'silent killer', since it doesn't really have much in the way of symptoms. But they've at least cancelled one of the surgeries that they don't think she needs. They were originally going to put a stent in for her heart, but they think she's been doing well with exercise and such, and decided they'll go without that. She's happy for that, at least.

But thank you and I'll do my best. My mom is in okay spirits so far, but she's been fretting a lot more now that the day is approaching in a couple weeks. But I have faith she'll make it through this.
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Re: Update

Permanent Linkby HeroSoulSword on Wed Aug 14, 2019 6:13 pm

Oh, my mom is very much the same way. She even has three stents in her, so she's very much like your mother. She's insanely stubborn when it comes to doctors, which is rather ironic in her case, as she used to WORK for them. She's a retired medical writer, meaning she used to do research and reports on various medicines, treatments, and other such stuff. And, for extra irony points, I ended up becoming her unintentional lab rat. Whenever she was doing certain reports (migraines and depression are big examples), I would just so happen to develop said issue.

Which leads to another reason she hates doctors: she's actually smarter than them. For example, when I was first diagnosed with chronic migraines, she had been pushing for a certain med right from the get-go. But the doctors and specialists refused, as it was such an old med, and they only wanted to use the "new" (see: more profitable) meds, which either did absolutely nothing or made them worse. Finally, after two months of exhausting every option on the market, and me having been crippled by my continuous chain of migraines, she finally slammed her foot down on them and they relented, giving me the med that she had been pushing for since day 1, calling it a last-ditch strategy. Guess what? It worked. It is now my only lifeline when it comes to migraines, as absolutely nothing else works on me, even though some docs have tried to prevent me from having it from time to time. The same thing happened when I got diagnosed with depression. She pushed for certain meds since day 1, they ignored her, gave me meds that did MORE damage (including sending me to psych wards multiple times), before relenting to her persistence and gave me the meds that helped start my recovery. I'm on a completely different set of meds for that now (baring the migraine med), but at least some of my newer doctors actually listened to her, since she still had a lot of ties to the medical world, and they respected that.

But, yeah, I know the feeling, as she hates doctors with a passion, and I'm starting to develop that mentality, too. Before the colonoscopy, when she was having her anemia problems, they subjected her to every test possible. As she put it, they were looking for "zebras" instead of "horses", meaning they were looking for exotic issues, not the common ones. The colonoscopy revealed the issue right there and then, which was, indeed, a "horse" instead of a "zebra", having wasted at least 10 different tests on her when the answer was smack dab in front of them. She started to feel like their cash cow after all that, which only increased her hatred for doctors. So, yeah, I know how you feel, as my mom is very much like yours. You'd have to drag my mom to the doctor kicking and screaming, as she has the exact same mentality and absolutely hates doctors. I can't exactly blame both your and my mom, to be honest, as, lately, I've been going through more trail-and-error (mostly error) with one of my doctors, as I needed another med to counter some of my other meds' side-effects, often with terrible results. And, once again, she suggested something from the get-go, they ignored her, shoved expensive meds down my throat, and only relented when I started to suffer from terrible side-effects. And, once again, her med worked, more or less (I still experience some side-effects, but they're extremely minor in comparison to the previous attempts, where it wasn't pretty).

But, in any case, once again I wish you and your mother luck. I have a feeling she'll pull through, even if it's that bad. While I've come to feel that some doctors are complete greedy morons, when it comes to cancer, that's where I have faith in them, since they did save my mom recently and my grandma years ago (who has long since passed away). So, I have faith that your mother will come out in good shape. It'll be a haul, let me tell you, but it will be worth it in the long run.
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Re: Update

Permanent Linkby Robertruler77 on Wed Aug 14, 2019 6:19 pm

I hope everything goes well, when my mother tried to have a pacemaker installed, they partially screwed up part of her heart and they didn’t notice for years. If your mother needs heart surgery and after seems to have unusual bouts of exhaustion, and of course, I absolutely hope she doesn’t, same issue might wind up being the case.

And, I have to wish you all the best, and doubly so that you don’t wind up emotionally numb to practically any medical/surgical issue like I have. Always hope for the best, and don’t get complacent that it’ll just turn out okay. Not saying you should be pessimistic, but just don’t end up being so used to it you shrug.

I’ll quit my useless rambling. I hope everything goes well and that you can come back with good news as soon as possible.
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Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Thu Aug 15, 2019 9:47 am

HeroSoulSword wrote:Oh, my mom is very much the same way. She even has three stents in her, so she's very much like your mother. She's insanely stubborn when it comes to doctors, which is rather ironic in her case, as she used to WORK for them. She's a retired medical writer, meaning she used to do research and reports on various medicines, treatments, and other such stuff. And, for extra irony points, I ended up becoming her unintentional lab rat. Whenever she was doing certain reports (migraines and depression are big examples), I would just so happen to develop said issue.

Which leads to another reason she hates doctors: she's actually smarter than them. For example, when I was first diagnosed with chronic migraines, she had been pushing for a certain med right from the get-go. But the doctors and specialists refused, as it was such an old med, and they only wanted to use the "new" (see: more profitable) meds, which either did absolutely nothing or made them worse. Finally, after two months of exhausting every option on the market, and me having been crippled by my continuous chain of migraines, she finally slammed her foot down on them and they relented, giving me the med that she had been pushing for since day 1, calling it a last-ditch strategy. Guess what? It worked. It is now my only lifeline when it comes to migraines, as absolutely nothing else works on me, even though some docs have tried to prevent me from having it from time to time. The same thing happened when I got diagnosed with depression. She pushed for certain meds since day 1, they ignored her, gave me meds that did MORE damage (including sending me to psych wards multiple times), before relenting to her persistence and gave me the meds that helped start my recovery. I'm on a completely different set of meds for that now (baring the migraine med), but at least some of my newer doctors actually listened to her, since she still had a lot of ties to the medical world, and they respected that.

But, yeah, I know the feeling, as she hates doctors with a passion, and I'm starting to develop that mentality, too. Before the colonoscopy, when she was having her anemia problems, they subjected her to every test possible. As she put it, they were looking for "zebras" instead of "horses", meaning they were looking for exotic issues, not the common ones. The colonoscopy revealed the issue right there and then, which was, indeed, a "horse" instead of a "zebra", having wasted at least 10 different tests on her when the answer was smack dab in front of them. She started to feel like their cash cow after all that, which only increased her hatred for doctors. So, yeah, I know how you feel, as my mom is very much like yours. You'd have to drag my mom to the doctor kicking and screaming, as she has the exact same mentality and absolutely hates doctors. I can't exactly blame both your and my mom, to be honest, as, lately, I've been going through more trail-and-error (mostly error) with one of my doctors, as I needed another med to counter some of my other meds' side-effects, often with terrible results. And, once again, she suggested something from the get-go, they ignored her, shoved expensive meds down my throat, and only relented when I started to suffer from terrible side-effects. And, once again, her med worked, more or less (I still experience some side-effects, but they're extremely minor in comparison to the previous attempts, where it wasn't pretty).

But, in any case, once again I wish you and your mother luck. I have a feeling she'll pull through, even if it's that bad. While I've come to feel that some doctors are complete greedy morons, when it comes to cancer, that's where I have faith in them, since they did save my mom recently and my grandma years ago (who has long since passed away). So, I have faith that your mother will come out in good shape. It'll be a haul, let me tell you, but it will be worth it in the long run.


I do get where you and your mom are coming from. I mean, I don't like going to the doctor at all. I only JUST finished paying off my ER bill from last year. And it sucked. And they found nothing of immediate scrutiny, so it was a huge amount of money on different tests and then they wanted me to come back---but I declined, because they also dropped me from my doctor (between the last time I had been to the doc and then, the hospital had gone to for-profit, which they were not before, and thus if you hadn't seen your doctor in 2 years, you were no longer a patient of that doctor) and did not have any of my old medical records anymore. All of that information had been shoved out in their 'new system' because it was old. And after my ER visit, they wanted me to PAY to come back and have a 'consultation' with a doctor before I got assigned to said doctor. So I said no. And I still lack insurance, so even though I've found an issue that popped up in the last few months, I can't get it checked out officially yet (if I do before insurance, it'll become a 'pre-existing condition' and then not get covered, because... 'merica). I'm pretty sure I know what it is and it explains all the problems I've been having since even high school. But. Got to wait.

Anyway, I think as far as the zebras and horses go... it's more a requirement on their part. They don't test necessarily because they want to, but because they're basically required to. Because if they do some tests and it turns out they didn't check for signs of one thing it could have been, and that thing ends up being an affliction they could have tested for? They're in trouble. They have to be thorough because of lawsuits and other things. But yeah, I do get where you're coming from with that. It does seem ridiculous. And the amount of money for it is even more ridiculous. They do make a ton of money and a lot of people can't easily afford this stuff even WITH insurance, due to things like deductibles. It sucks.

My mom basically thinks she can cure anything with home remedies, though. They give her medication and she gets angry and says she could take her herbal supplements and do just as well. And I think that's a little far. I know meds aren't fun and can cause side effects, but she can't cure everything just by watching Doctor Oz and looking through home remedies books. That wouldn't have told her that she had cancer, either. And the original reason she had to get the colonoscopy done was an anemia problem that resulted in some blood in the stool and they wanted to find out what was going on. (She also wanted to skip that, and if she had, I hate to think of what could have happened.)

But yeah, thanks. I like to have faith she'll pull through. She's never been through any sort of operation like this, but either way, she'll have all the support that I and my family can give. And hopefully after all of this, she'll be able to recover and rest easy.
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Re: Update

Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Thu Aug 15, 2019 9:54 am

Robertruler77 wrote:I hope everything goes well, when my mother tried to have a pacemaker installed, they partially screwed up part of her heart and they didn’t notice for years. If your mother needs heart surgery and after seems to have unusual bouts of exhaustion, and of course, I absolutely hope she doesn’t, same issue might wind up being the case.

And, I have to wish you all the best, and doubly so that you don’t wind up emotionally numb to practically any medical/surgical issue like I have. Always hope for the best, and don’t get complacent that it’ll just turn out okay. Not saying you should be pessimistic, but just don’t end up being so used to it you shrug.

I’ll quit my useless rambling. I hope everything goes well and that you can come back with good news as soon as possible.


I'm really sorry to hear about what happened with your mother.

And thank you. I'm not emotionally numb, though. Definitely not. I'm trying to be positive because I want to put on an encouraging face for my mother. But I have broken down into tears several times already in private because I hate to think of what could happen if anything goes wrong. My mother isn't young. And I really hope she'll be able to pull through this. But hoping and praying is pretty much all I can do at this point. Won't know what happens until it happens. Just trying to keep faith. Unlike my father (the eternal pessimist), she feeds off of positive energy. I want to keep providing that for her.
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Re: Update

Permanent Linkby Bright on Thu Aug 15, 2019 4:13 pm

Wish you all the best of recovery.
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Permanent Linkby Chameleonette on Thu Aug 15, 2019 6:27 pm

Bright wrote:Wish you all the best of recovery.


Thank you. As long as she gets through it alright, that's the most I can hope for/ask for.
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