I don't know. I just feel pretty disenchanted as opposed to the way I was originally optimistic about everything here.

I guess the most disappointing thing is that the people I felt I connected with really well and had gotten to talking/befriending over AIM and such seem to have disappeared completely in past weeks. I don't know what happened or if they just wanted to stop talking to me or what. And since this is going on at nearly the same time I had that falling out in my normal fandom, it really brings me down.

This isn't some sob update begging people to talk with or connect to me, don't get me wrong--and please don't send me messages like that. It's not that I'm lonely, it's that I feel I made connections with a number of cool people that have all just dropped off the face of the earth awhile later. This seems to be a repeat thing that happens to me wherever I go.

That and I don't feel like I'm making any worthwhile contributions here any longer. I try to share things that I find, but it just doesn't seem like I'm into types that enough people really care about talking about or sharing. (Not to say that some don't---there's a couple of you who have linked me to some amazing things to see/read and I have enjoyed talking to you about them.)

I suppose you could just say that I'm getting frustrated. I figured that I probably would at some point. It's not like I'm about to pack up my bags and leave or anything like that, but I'm losing the gusto that really drove me when I first came. I'm falling behind on everything, haven't felt inspired or motivated at all to do vore-related drawings/writings. I guess that it could be in part because of the crap I went through last week, but even so, it bothers me. I don't like to lose my spark, but I feel that's what is happening.

It's just not a good feeling. Maybe it will pass.

I can relate; I tend to go in phases, myself. It feels lately like all of the threads I've been posting in so much have pretty much died out, so I'm not sure if it's just me or if it's happening to everyone. The changes in the weather are messing things up a bit too.
And likewise on the connecting with people, then dropping out of contact; I've been guilty of doing this myself, but also having it happen to me a lot lately (I've got three unfinished RPs under my belt now, where my partners either took an indefinite break or just disappeared off the face of the earth). School/college/university is also a factor.

Anyway, I'm sure it will pass, eventually! Or more precisely, things will pick up again, possibly even in a new direction. And if you do feel like it, I'm almost always up for a bit of a chat. (I forget if I've got an AIM account or not, but I think I do.)

I think it will pass. Many people experience that, that the spark, the creativity is gone, but it does come back again later. Has happened to me several times. Sometimes a short break helps.

Great people suddenly "dissappear", I have experienced that too, and it feels sad when it happens, particularly when you don't know the reason. Sometimes they come back, sometimes they don't.

Sometimes this place is very alive, a lot of things going on, other times it feels just "dead", the only thread update I got in my inbox being "eka's random thread"..

It may sound like a plattitude, but I think everything can have their ups and downs. I'm pretty sure better times will come again.

Yeah i agree with the others. First of all, people come and go from this community as their lives dictate, you cant blae them for puting porn at low priority. Second, as ka atis says, creative energis come and go as well, it's nothing to worry about.

Saftkeur wrote:I can relate; I tend to go in phases, myself. It feels lately like all of the threads I've been posting in so much have pretty much died out, so I'm not sure if it's just me or if it's happening to everyone. The changes in the weather are messing things up a bit too.
And likewise on the connecting with people, then dropping out of contact; I've been guilty of doing this myself, but also having it happen to me a lot lately (I've got three unfinished RPs under my belt now, where my partners either took an indefinite break or just disappeared off the face of the earth). School/college/university is also a factor.

Anyway, I'm sure it will pass, eventually! Or more precisely, things will pick up again, possibly even in a new direction. And if you do feel like it, I'm almost always up for a bit of a chat. (I forget if I've got an AIM account or not, but I think I do.)

Yeah, I suppose that's true (both along the lines of the threads and the weather). And it's not so much the RPs that I'm concerned about than the people themselves. Like I said, I had gotten to talking/befriending them. And a few of us had a lot of things in common outside of fetish preferences. So they when just disappeared, it was pretty jarring. I don't know if they're busy or not (if so, I don't understand why they wouldn't just say so), or just got tired of talking to me. It's hard to say and I guess it's normal to worry a little in that situation.

It's possible, I guess. Nonetheless, I appreciate it and I'll keep that in mind. Thanks.

Ka-Atis wrote:I think it will pass. Many people experience that, that the spark, the creativity is gone, but it does come back again later. Has happened to me several times. Sometimes a short break helps.

Great people suddenly "dissappear", I have experienced that too, and it feels sad when it happens, particularly when you don't know the reason. Sometimes they come back, sometimes they don't.

Sometimes this place is very alive, a lot of things going on, other times it feels just "dead", the only thread update I got in my inbox being "eka's random thread"..

It may sound like a plattitude, but I think everything can have their ups and downs. I'm pretty sure better times will come again.

I've experienced art blocks many times for various reasons, so that's not something new to me. But disinterest completely is a bit strange to me, as far as feelings go. I tend to get very passionate about things and stay passionate. I'm not sure why the fire died so quickly in this situation, but I'll give it time.

I'm a little worried about at least two of the people who vanished. I had gotten to be friends with them and we talked about a lot of things. I'm just lost as to why they wouldn't provide some kind of a head's up if they were going to vanish for awhile. I'd more than understand if they needed a break from the internet or everything. I just hope I haven't done or said anything wrong---not knowing the answers just kind of sucks.

But yeah, I'm aware about ups and downs. I think a lot of things are just getting to me in general lately and a number of them have tied back here. I'll just give it some time.

Indighost wrote:Yeah i agree with the others. First of all, people come and go from this community as their lives dictate, you cant blae them for puting porn at low priority. Second, as ka atis says, creative energis come and go as well, it's nothing to worry about.

...It had nothing to do porn. -_-; I talked to these people like friends a lot more often than actually doing RPs with them. If I didn't know them at all, why else would I be upset about them disappearing? Good god, this has nothing to do with the RPs. When last I left off with both of them, we weren't even currently RPing anything. And I didn't even mention RP or porn in my update, so I don't understand why you came to that conclusion. Anyway, it's a false conclusion.

Hi there Chameleonette,

I can relate as I see people post a lot, then just disappear, I have done it. I think the change of seasons is possibly a big player here. A lot of people suffer from undiagnosed Seasonal Affective Disorder or something related (Atypical depression for me). The shorter days and lack of sunlight can really drive people into hibernation mode. I know my creativity takes a hit in the autumn and winter then suddenly explodes back in the spring (though I checked out of here this summer for personal reasons, my art continued).

I wouldn't worry about it really. I know it can be disheartening to lose contact with people you make connections with but hopefully you make some lasting connections with some of the great people on here like I have.

All the best to you,

Darius

Yeah, I didn't consider the season change so much, but that may have something to do with it. (I've been feeling a bit of it myself, too, I'm sure.) I just hope it wasn't anything I did or said that made those people want to drop out of contact. I wish they'd said something, is all.

Thanks, though. I'll hope for the best, too.