Being asexual and enjoying vore

[LivesInAStomach]

As an asexual vore fan who prefers to use the term "fantasy", one of the reasons for that is to do with my understanding of what the terms "kink" and "fetish" mean.

You're bringing up a really interesting point that I've never considered before, that makes a lot of sense. The words "kink" and "fetish" are so tangled up in sex. While "fantasy" isn't a perfect term either (at least for me) I may start using that more since it's completely disconnected from sex.

[EmilyNidhoggr]

Despite that, I really did not know if I trusted her enough with the information of what excites me, so I took one of the stories and modified it. I took the whole vore part away, and changed the end so it was a cliffhanger leading to *something* they would not come to know, and told her that "I edited it, maybe you'll get to read the rest if I tell you about this 'guilty pleasure' of mine".
Was this a mistake? Should I just go around telling people "hey, I might be asexual, and write stories about people eating each other because that turns me on more than using another living person as a condom!"? I don't know, and I don't think I'll ever know.

I think people look down on erotic short stories whatever the content, so editing it was probably a good idea, even if by some chance she was into it. Being half-hearted and coy about it's probably a mistake though. If you want someone to know you're into something weird and gross and you don't want them to be put off or look down on you, you have to be absolutely shameless and look them in the eyes, that's what I've learned. If you can do that, they likely won't challenge you, and it's a weird and often destructive quirk of humans that not challenging something objectionable changes the wiring and makes it less objectionable. There's a chance that they reframe the thing as just something ordinary people in this mad world are into, and it gives them permission to be more open about their own deviancies. But if you cringe or hesitate, they recognise the signs of weakness and chase you back to the shadows like the ungeheuren Ungeziefer you are.

I've shared stories I've posted here in normie creative writing circles without changing much, including a short story adaptation of the Hidden Folk comic. I think as long as the devourings have a justification for being in the story and aren't just blatant fetish indulgence, people can swallow about one, maybe two such stories. Once it becomes a trend you're definitely the weirdo, but if you can be weird in lots of different ways, that's not such a bad thing. Everyone likes a weirdo who can consistently surprise them and help them look at the world in a weird way.

In terms of telling people you're asexual, I used to do that a lot, and would often feel uncomfortable if I was in a social group for too long without it being common knowledge that I was asexual. I didn't want people coming onto me or getting mixed signals or misinterpreting my affection or attention. It's something I became less eager to do as it became more and more something people had heard of, especially with characters like Anonymous Asexual and others really poisoning the well in terms of what associations you invite on yourself by using the label (it's not nearly as poisoned as vore, but it's still something people cringe to hear). Now that I'm older it almost never comes up. I'm not a mum but I'm shaped like one and I work with children, so I kind of inhabit an asexual role in society and nobody questions my lifestyle or demeanour. Personally I think it's nobody in the real world's business what we are and are not into, and if you can live forcefully and with vision, you'll never run out of things to bond with other adults over that don't require you to make embarrassing and shameful confessions that they really don't want to hear.

Though I'm glad you felt comfortable opening up here. Obviously we're all happy to hear these kinds of confessions.

[Gamera]

Honestly I would have much rather have simply been normal.

[JadeTheDeer]

Honestly I would have much rather have simply been normal.

Ain't such a thing as normal, especially when it comes to the very wide and culturally-influenced world of human sexuality. Our kink is somewhat uncommon, but it's just one kink among many, many others.

[Microsho]

Not sure whether I am asexual or not as I have never found any interest in sex or genitalia. Although I've had a fetish for mouths and tongues for a long time now, and taking an interest in vore really adds to that for me. I think I also have an interest in the whole power dynamic since I'm mostly into vore with size difference.

[Gamera]

Honestly I would have much rather have simply been normal.

Ain't such a thing as normal, especially when it comes to the very wide and culturally-influenced world of human sexuality. Our kink is somewhat uncommon, but it's just one kink among many, many others.

That's a real nice thought and all but when you find genitalia off putting to the point of nausea and can only bring yourself to masturbate to the thought of being eaten or eating something else alive and as a result of this will never have a happy relationship or anything of the sort it doesn't mean much.

[Ixtili]

Hey there!

I'm not sure what I am, really. I'm quite attracted to gals as a whole, like a lot of young adults like me, but I never think about fucking peo- oh wait, that's asexuality. Huh, guess I'm that, then...

Seriously though, I fullheartedly understand what you mean and how you feel, Livin (imma call you that lol). Sex has never appealed me, and when we studies the human sex organs back in 3rd grade, I had this awfully painful feeling, like every droplet of blood in my system came and tried to burst my eardrums at once. Not hot, like sexually aroused. Legitimately painful. Of course, I tried to hide it as best as I could, and never told a soul about it until now.
Now that I think about it, what you describe perfectly represents how I went through puberty, and am living now too! (mostly). I don't mind characters getting sexually aroused by squishing another person down their throat. I don't dislike CV nor UB, except when the cock belongs to a guy (I know, that means only futas. M/? just aint my thing, really, but I can appreciate it when it's well made and not too in-your-face that it's a prime alpha male or whatever). However, this changes when it's 3D art/photo manips.
UB is still okay, I don't mind some more photo-realistic art of it, but CV is just... geuhghh, I really don't like it, and I can't explain why.

What is vore for me? It's basically what sex is to most people, only even more private. And I do mean **private**
Recently, I was talking with some young woman on Discord about our trips in Europe (we were each on a different one. She was like in Spain, and I was in Italy). I mentioned at some point that I write short stories, and she asked me to send her one of them. Considering the only thing I write is vore stories, I didn't know what to do, and I couldn't get it over my heart to tell her about it. We're not super well known acquaintances; we've been talking on-off for a few months after meeting on a server, but that's it. Despite that, I really did not know if I trusted her enough with the information of what excites me, so I took one of the stories and modified it. I took the whole vore part away, and changed the end so it was a cliffhanger leading to *something* they would not come to know, and told her that "I edited it, maybe you'll get to read the rest if I tell you about this 'guilty pleasure' of mine".
Was this a mistake? Should I just go around telling people "hey, I might be asexual, and write stories about people eating each other because that turns me on more than using another living person as a condom!"? I don't know, and I don't think I'll ever know.


Sorry if I went a bit off-track lmao
I'm not good at staying within a theme or whatever.
Thanks for making this post lad. I don't talk about my feelings often, nor do I like talking about them a lot, but getting to talk about this stuff once every so often really does make my day haha

See ya ;D

Hey I've had similar problems with embarrassment talking about what I write before. So I figured I'd give you some advice! if you can manage to stomach it I find spitting out the words "it's weird fetish art and I'd rather not go into it cause it's embarrassing" really fast and in a near whisper can go a long way bonus points if you avoid looking at their face. Unless you tell your therapist cause then they'll want to talk about why you find it embarrassing.

[VikingKiwi]

I've only acknowledged myself as an ace this very year and part of what took me so long to admit myself to the label is vore. Life story incoming.

Vore is more or less sexual in nature for me in the form of arousal, but I know I've been attracted to vore well before I was old enough for it to truly be sexual or ever found on the internet that there was a term for it. On the other hand, the very thought of sexual intercourse and the sight of genitals or even just breasts has always outright disgusted me to one degree or another. Needless to say, while I find myself aroused by vore, I've always preferred to keep sex and explicit descriptions like that out of it, with a very few exceptions. And I'm quite obviously only interested in good old oral vore.

It took so long for me to properly accept myself as asexual is because I am still very much attracted to people. So many sources where I saw asexuality represented, it was always clumped up with aromanticism as if they were one and the same. And I very much feel the need for closeness in the form of cuddles and the like, as long as it doesn't dip into sexual acts. It was only earlier this year that I found out how there are different types of attractions one can feel, myself still strongly feeling romantic, sensual and aesthetic attraction, but being repulsed by the idea of sex. And I've tried. I wanted to please an ex-partner of mine, but even if I could get aroused by their touch, when it came down to actually acting on that arousal, my body couldn't get past the disgust, leaving us unable to continue.

For a long time before I accepted myself as an ace, I basically just viewed myself as an allosexual with wires crossed. After all, I was disgusted by something that should arouse me and aroused by something that should disgust me or even scare me. I think here's a good time to mention that my attraction to vore doesn't stay on the cuddly side. Sure enough, I like that aspect of vore as well, but what truly calls to me are the scenarios where the prey will die a painful death for the enjoyment of the predator and the prey is me. Heck, I'll admit that even outside of vore I find myself to be very autassassinophilic. So it's always felt like the fear of death and the excitement of sex just swapped places for me, somehow.

Nowadays I've learned more about how attraction can be categorized and how even aces can have kinks that stay separate from acts of sex as well. I did always know that I could count as asexual, since the day I learned the term, seeing how obviously sex-repulsed I am, to the point of having been a hindrance to me in the past. It just took a while to accept it, because I was still attracted in all the other ways and there was a sort of a sexual way I found myself attracted to people through vore and the like, it was just something that could never be. And even to this day, after accepting the label for myself, I do still feel like some wires got crossed in my brain at birth, but that is something I'll need to discuss more with my therapist rather than on this post.

[KnightleyPaine]

As someone who has played with and also dated several aces... I'm still not qualified for jack shit in terms of statements but that's never stopped me.

Though it's been my experience there's no one-size-fits-all true ace scotsman. Some of them get horny, some of them don't. I've seen anything between horny af with no desire towards anyone to zero libido but still wanting it plenty for more emotional reasons. And apparently plenty can be physically aroused while feeling none of it. There was even someone who only experiences sexuality vicariously through fictional scenarios (or roleplayed characters), they've mentioned to just have no desire IRL.

It's come to a point where I've concluded that it is a lot more gainful to not give a shit about what aces supposedly feel and just have the individual you're dealing with tell you what they're like.

On here too, they know why they're here and they can probably tell you.

[Birichino]

We seem to be pretty similar. I'm asexual in the sense that I'm also sex-repulsed, but I'm still attracted to females and can enjoy arousal in others, although not so much specifically for sex. I'm not really comfortable RPing after some bad experiences, but I tend to enjoy novel concepts and I think that mechanic is stronger with vore, which is why I end up writing such unconventional stories.

I know terms are muddied, but I don't really present myself as asexual unless it comes up, where I usually preface it with "sort of". "Grey Asexual" doesn't really mean anything, so I just give the relevant part; that I'm not interested in actual sex. I use the term "fetish" for my interest in vore because it's still generally erotic, but explicitly avoid "kink" because I consider kinks to be additions to sex. I don't really know what eroticism is like for normally-sexual people, but I seem to be much less influenced by lust than most people, and have a very large psychological component to being interested in that way. Considering that I only really like safe vore and prefer pred/prey interaction, it's probably not surprising my interest in vore has a root in intimacy.

[Nautila]

I just wanted to throw this topic out there to see what kind of replies I can get. Being asexual myself, I've always been interested in how asexuality can interact with vore. I definitely have seen various writers and artists on Eka's Portal who are openly asexual, so I know we exist!

And just in case someone out there is confused... it's totally possible to be asexual but still have kinks. Asexuality as a whole is a spectrum, and everybody experiences their asexuality a little differently. Me personally, I generally dislike most depictions of genitals, as well as any kind of sex, penetrative or otherwise. But I'm a huge preyslut and I love consuming (heh) all types of vore media whenever I can. I'm an avid roleplayer and I never have my characters display sexual arousal or engage in any sexual activity. They can blush, sure, and feel excited about being eaten, but it's never due to sexual pleasure/lust. I have no interest in "normal" vanilla pornography, but vore just tickles my brain in the right way. Of course, I would still probably say that vore is by its very nature a NSFW activity. But I just get a different kind of enjoyment out of it than the average vore fan out there.

Anybody else out there who is an asexual vore fan who wants to share their experience? Or, alternatively—anybody who doesn't need sexual activities to have a good time with vore.

Aside from being a preyslut, sounds like your experience is more or less the same as mine. been seeing more and more vore people coming out as ace lately.

[thom183]

Aside from being a preyslut, sounds like your experience is more or less the same as mine. been seeing more and more vore people coming out as ace lately.

I think you are right there with more people coming out as ace.

Having gone through puberty recently myself (I am not a minor so don't worry about that) and have to ask myself the question: "who am I?" I would say that there is way more information you can find about it on the internet in recent years. People start to realize that there is no such thing as a hetreosexueal person and that everyone is on a spectrum from somewhere to somewhere. The human mind is such a compilacated thing that it's (not even almost) imposibble to define someone. I think that is when someone can find themself in one or more aspects of ace (which are not always cleary difined and because of that can be interpretated in multiply ways) people will identify themself faster as ace.



ps. I had to use google translate several times for this post

[Dyrsig]

I think I am kind of like this, yeah. Like I do get stimulated by some kinds of vore (and inflation etc) scenarios, but not with anything sexual (sexual as a shorthand for sex acts involving genitalia) involved going on in them, and in fact, weirdly, if anything sexual happens in them, sometimes it even can be a turnoff for me. I don't even know why lmao. Brains are weird that way. Also same with vanilla porn, it also does absolutely nothing for me. In fact, people saying normal "lewd" things barely fazes me irl, while vore related things do kinda fluster me lol. But yeah essentially I just call myself asexual in most public spaces because I absolutely do not want to out myself as having this kink and I don't want to explain all this too.

Also agreed with people who said that it's like vore replaces other types of sex, yeah. Like someone Ctrl-F deleted normal sex in my brain and replaced it all with vore and belly kink stuff lol.

I'm trans (FtM), if that's a factor, or not, who even knows.

[janejobs]

I'm also sex-repulsed ace and I hate sexual situations in vore. I think what I react to about vore has to do partly with the idea of survival. Predator has to eat to survive, prey has to try and avoid being eaten to survive.
I do find people attractive. I often want to make out with people, but all my fantasies involve clothes staying on. I tend to imagine people I find attractive as either prey (as humans) or preds (as giantesses.)

[EmilyNidhoggr]

I'm also sex-repulsed ace and I hate sexual situations in vore. I think what I react to about vore has to do partly with the idea of survival. Predator has to eat to survive, prey has to try and avoid being eaten to survive.

Yes, thank you! I think that's the main divide between how I experience and enjoy vore, and how most of the community seems to. For me, vore works because it is life and death, specifically it is a hyperreal distillation of the life and death drama as it plays out in the human world. All the dynamics at work within humanity's collective soul, the clash of egos, civilisations, ideologies, passions, gods, families, identities- can all be expressed in a way that makes sensory and tangible sense, in the act of overpowering another living being through force or charisma and digesting their body and mind into one's own. Vore makes frightening abstractions visceral, by literally centering the breadth of abstract human experience within the viscera.

I also think it's a reminder of the fact that life itself is at its core a digestive system, with various attachments to improve the quality and consistency of its meals. To me, it seems utterly ridiculous when people try and make out like all life is sex. Sex came along long after life began, as a means of expanding complex and varied systems around the central digestive organs. If life is all one thing, that thing is eating. And for the kind of life we are (animals), what we eat is other life. If there's one thing we should remember and love about ourselves and each other, it's that fact.

[SecretBaboon]

I feel like I'm on the really odd end of the ace spectrum to be here on a pornography site: I'm a sex-repulsed aro-ace. I despise sex, written, drawn, IRL, just... no. It used to be so bad that I would nearly vomit at the idea of sexual intercourse, much less see it anywhere in any capacity. Even analogies to sex like the "male" and "female" ends of electric plugs would disgust me. I've gotten better at stomaching the idea of sex, since I've wrapped my head around the fact that humans are instinctively sexual creatures, and that sex isn't a sin (being raised in a shitty religion will do that to you), but I guess things just stick around. (I'm referring to me feeling dirty when feeling aroused.) I'm fine with people who enjoy doing it, but it happening to me? No sir, nuh-uh, no way.

While I like vore, I find that I'm very picky about it. The majority of vore I don't like, things like CV, AV, and a little bit of OV aren't my thing. I get the appeal, it's just not for me. Conversely, I don't like seeing a lot of hyper- any body part. Nudity is impossible to avoid in something like this, so I've grown indifferent to it; it's just a body, bodies can look like a ton of different things. But when it comes to absolutely gigantic boobs and/or dicks, it just reads as grotesque to me. My overly analytical brain immediately starts thinking about how heavy those body parts must be, how much they get in the way, how much they impede normal life, how much bloodflow is necessary to sustain them, etc. I just can't really enjoy vore when hyper- anything is involved.

As for what I do like, I like UB without digestion mainly, and I can attribute a lot of other things to it, like other kinks, and trauma. Mainly trauma. I have a thing for pregnancies, and that factors into my taste in vore. I don't like the way I was raised. Being raised in a shitty religion by abusive parents, while also being trans, is not a fun way to go about your life. The idea of being whisked away by someone or something else, to get a new start as something else, is very appealing to me. I guess it's all in the fantasy of starting over, mostly in a new body.

I also find that horror elements also factor into my taste in vore. Intimate and caring situations are great and I love them, but horror aspects? Amazing. I can't explain exactly why this is, but I can give an approximation. I love a good story, and stories with horror aspects (doesn't have to be a straight up completely horror story) I gravitate to the most. It adds excitement, makes you feel emotions, and most of all, usually features monsters. I love a good monster design more than anything else.

So a vore thing that would appeal to me the most would be: a monster forcefully unbirthing a human against their will, maybe after playing with their mind and ramping up their fear for a while, to become pregnant with the human to transform them into their offspring. At this point it's pretty divorced from anything sexual, and that's the best part of it. It's just a good unconventional horror story. I've even had dreams with this premise, and they weren't wet dreams, all they did was scare me. I love that and want more of it.

If I were to break it down even further than I already have, I would say maybe I just like seeing a squirming bulge traveling across flesh, since I have absolutely enjoyed other types of vore I previously said I didn't like from time to time, just has to be done just so.

So, all in all, me being asexual absolutely factors into how I enjoy vore. Less sexual in nature, next to nothing sexual, actually, and more about a new life (in a new body, if it applies), whether you want it or not.

(To add on as an addendum, since I can't find a place to shove this in but I feel it likely plays a part: the way I'm trans is that I'm masc-aligned, but want next to no sexual characteristics. No breasts, including nipples, no dick, and no vagina or womb. Just very gender bare. I sometimes wonder if my lack of desire for sex has me wishing for no "traditionally" sexual parts, and that further plays into my vore kink. But I dunno, I'm probably just being overanalytical.)

[tastylittletiny]

Wow, I love that a thread like this exists! As a fellow asexual into vore, this is awesome to read and discuss with fellow ace vore lovers

So my asexuality is more from a sex-neutral standpoint. I am generally sex-repulsed towards myself/imagining things being done to me, but I am sex-positive for pretty much everyone else (i.e. if other people are having sex and doin stuff i'm like "you go you funky little allosexuals"), and I have a hilariously dirty mind So like, I don't HATE sex overall. But I have no personal interest in having things done to me/doing things for anyone else, overall.

However, vore is...very interesting, concerning what it makes me feel. I would say that I'm overall pretty much always "vore horny"--I almost always have vore scenarios on the mind because I'm just. I love vore lol. And I can get flustered, sure--like my face can get all hot and I can feel flutters when I look at particularly horny stuff, but I never feel the need/don't want to masturbate. I just get pleasant mind feelings from it all and it just gives overall good body sensations--just not in the genital region But literally, aside from feeling sensation there and feeling the urge to masturbate, I think I pretty much enjoy vore the same way people that are into it with a sexual mindset are--legit I just don't want to masturbate to it/don't feel the need to masturbate to it lol. Like it wouldn't enhance anything for me so I just don't do it xD

I do think it also affects how I view vore, though. It is incredibly kinky for me, but I prefer my vore to overall not involve actual sex actions, and to not overtly involve genitalia. I enjoy male preds in vore, for example, but I don't enjoy it when I see an explicit, bare penis, or even a penis bulge lol--my focus is much more on the belly, and on the act of EATING. For me, vore is more about the primal hunger of the predator--the desperation, the craving, the NEED to eat people. It's very hunger-focused, which then of course I enjoy leading to the stuffed-full-ness/complete and utter satisfaction of the predator. However, I don't enjoy it when, like, the predator jerks himself off after eating someone, for example--I prefer for him to get all of HIS pleasure purely from how FULL he feels, through rubbing and patting his belly and belching, etc. Same thing with me as prey--I know that there's plenty of people that enjoy the idea of being fucked before being eaten, but personally, that's not for me. I don't necessarily mind nudity where the prey is concerned (and I do tend to lean towards female prey since I am a girl myself), but I don't want any sort of, like, cunnilingus or anything lol.

...Sorry if I went on a tangent there lol. But like, overall, I really think I have the same sort of FEELINGS concerning vore that allosexuals have--however, I just don't feel anything in my nether regions and don't feel the need to masturbate or anything with it xD I also do prefer my vore scenarios to not involve sex, since that doesn't quite do anything for me, and sometimes can, in fact, turn me off a bit towards a situation.

This is all just my opinions though! Everyone can like what they like in vore, which is what's so interesting about people with this fetish. This is just my incredibly specific preferences and how I view it, lol. I'm still a trashy-ass motherfucker lol