Noxyoursox wrote:I think that the comments of women being less sexually active are probably untrue (speaking as someone who has those parts and is very active irl) but they tend to gravitate towards very different outlets. For example erotic fanfiction is written and consumed far more by women than by men. The difference between the two is where the focus is: on the emotional aspects of the characters' relationships, or on the physical aspects of their bodies/actions. I suspect that if you were looking just at the writer's portion of Eka's rather than at the site as a whole, you would probably find a lot more women there.
There is also the common problem of women and femmes being barraged with demands for pics, rp, and other unwanted sexual attention by men who are complete strangers, both in explicitly sexual sites like this one and everywhere online in general. For that matter, many of us face similar problems irl as well. Being openly femme is taken as an invitation to sexualize and make such demands, so many of us hide behind anonymity or a male persona. That would artificially inflate the number of "men" present on the site while reducing the apparent presence of women.
Agreed on a lot of this. I'm surprised sites like tumblr and fandoms in general haven't been used as examples of this. I've been in many fandoms over the years, even some diverse ones with huge, varied fanbases, and they were still almost always mostly comprised of women.
Fun fact: Before coming to Eka's, I was a long-time RPer---mostly in fandom circles. And the places I had RPed before (such as DreamWidth, among other things), had huge collections of fandom bases that were played by probably 95% female players---even the male characters. It was actually rare to see guys playing in multi-fandom RPs and anywhere near those circles.
And coming here was such a stark contrast from that (it honestly surprised me at first). So I surmise that a lot of ladies feel more comfortable in the presence of either more equally-balanced groups of genders, or ones of mostly other females, because there's so much less pressure. You don't have to worry as much about being hit on, sexualized, potentially stalked, etc. And the majority of other females I know are very into sexual stuff, but a lot of times, it's more in a fantasy nature. They're not necessarily looking for someone to get together with and take it to a bedroom. They're drawing art, writing fanfiction, and joining in those groups that share all sorts of discussions and content, from fluffy to as kinky as you can possibly imagine.
When you then turn the focus to a fetish of this nature, a male-dominated area, it's pretty unsurprising about the steep shift of gender. And I think part of the reason for that is, while it's a little easier to be open about our fantasies in fandoms/with OCs and areas where we feel a strong sense of comradery with others and a sense of safety in that space, girls have most often been taught to repress our fantasies and grew up where boys/men were often glorified for having them/acting on them and women were shamed/berated and even admonished for showing 'too much skin'. So coming into a fetish like this that has such a large number of men---some of which who latch onto the females wherever they can find them---can be extremely daunting and even off-putting. That's my view on it, anyway.
And why submissive men, specifically? A lot of people have answered that pretty well already, I think. I tend to lean to the explanation that most people into vore tend to relate to the prey side.
