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Re: Kink shaming

Postby JackFrost » Wed Jun 05, 2019 2:00 pm

No, not ever because I would never, ever, ever share my vore fetish with the outside world. Nobody knows about it, even my wife doesn't know, and I intend to keep it that way.

I've had a couple of near misses in the past where people inadvertently stumbled upon a vore image on my computer (this was in the days before I learned to properly hide my stash inside a password-protected rar file with file extension changed, inside dozens of sub-folders all containing innocuous texture packs for gaming mods on an external hard drive) and in both cases I was able to pass it off as "some weird shit that someone sent me for a laugh, creepy isn't it? I was just about to delete it", but that's the extent of it.

I'm so paranoid that I even worry about dying unexpectedly and somebody posthumously looking through the files on my computer and discovering my 'dark secret', and dreading what they might think of me.

Yeah, I know, I'm hopeless. :lol:
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby Mecho » Wed Jun 05, 2019 2:20 pm

I'm so paranoid that I even worry about dying unexpectedly and somebody posthumously looking through the files on my computer and discovering my 'dark secret', and dreading what they might think of me.


Hahah! I can so relate to this. One time I had a rather flickering heartbeat while in the vore mode. And all I could think of in that moment was "If i'm going to have a heart attack. The people who will find me will do so with me sitting naked in front of my computer with some vore pics on the computer" Not the most graceful way to go :lol:
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby JackFrost » Wed Jun 05, 2019 2:37 pm

Haha yeah, and it's not lime we'd give a tin shit about being discovered if we were dead... unless you happen to have deep spiritual beliefs about life after death, reincarnation and all the rest.

Imagine hanging around as a ghost, watching in resigned and impotent horror as all your relatives poured over your vore stash..... :lol:
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby Peptidase » Wed Jun 05, 2019 4:32 pm

I've never been upset about people categorically poking fun at vore. I mean I literally can't think of any fetish that is stranger outside of that wonderbread guy (but even then, expensive bread and women with chainsaws aren't really physically repulsive like vore can be). Making fun of vore content posted to websites where it isn't specifically welcomed is more or less a grey area for me. The amount of fetish porn on Devientart can certainly be tiresome for most users (I say being completely guilty of using the site for fetish porn), and frankly Youtube just isn't the place for it, but most of the mean comments left there usually aren't very productive. But shit like the fucking miiverse? Inexcusable.

Kink shaming individuals mostly just trying to keep it to themselves is a pretty big no-no, though. Nobody can help having a fetish, just the way they act about it. I wouldn't share anything about my fetishes with anyone close to me irl or online in situations where it wasn't already being discussed, because generally speaking other people don't want to see that shit. I generally don't want to know what my friends or family get off to, and I wouldn't burden them with the same, but I wouldn't want to give them a hard time about it either.
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby ArcaneSigil » Wed Jun 05, 2019 4:57 pm

I try not to kink shame... I just try to avoid the ones I don't particularly like. Scat, for one. To me, shit isn't attractive. Getting shit on, to me, seems more like it'd be a punishment than something to orgasm too. Hard Vore is another. As a prey, I'd love to slide down some sexy snake or dragon girls gullet, whole and alive, and be let out safely, so no digestion or death either. As a pred, I want to CONTINUE to have fun with my prey, which means letting them out later.
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby Ursa » Wed Jun 05, 2019 5:56 pm

ooh what a nice topic! time to write something deeply personal and cringy at this late night time, because i have something to say here.

i've been kink-shamed (and also shamed a lot for so much more than kinks) through my entire life, because i was always too open to people and figured where the borders are just a few years ago, i'm almost thirty and it seems like a late socialisation but better late than never.
though i always tended to be really close to pretty much everyone from complete strangers to my relatives, vore was something i was really ashamed of since i remember (apparently because it was even bigger part of my personality than any other identity thing i can think of), and that shame just ate me from the inside that whole time, so i was trying to get along with someone just to share my struggle about loving something as weird as vore. i remember sharing my "passion towards animals eating things" with my so-called friends when i was something about 12, and they just laughed at me. i pretended it really is funny and laughed too, but deep inside i was really hurt, i started hiding my drawings and became obsessive-scared someone will find them and make fun of me or ask me humiliating questions. This worry became even worse later when i started my attempts to form any kind of romantic relationship with just anyone (i was so desperate i was okay with just anyone around me, boy or girl or whatever), and i had a long history of various fails based on my lack of sexual interest and lots of other weirdnesses i had in me, and as time passed i started to suspect i'm doing something wrong asking people out, like, what do i want from them? hugs?
i never really wanted to have sex with guys, and girls didn't seem as sexual to me as they were portrayed in the media, i was always seeking more for some soulmate rather than a fuckpillow but i always had vore dreams and shittons of drawings with some huge monstrous characters swallowing just everyone, and later when i started to think about some real people around me not as things i hate and want to be gone, but something good, like a romantic interest i can dive into, my vore ideas started to transform until i figured that it is me who i want to see swallowing someone, but the more i was digging into this becoming more and more self-aware, the more awkward it started to become. i dunno where i'd be without eka's, FA and some other places where i found people i can share my stuff with, all that sharing and discussion really helped me get this off my chest, but i still was struggling. I tried confessing about vore to the people i was in relationship with, one of them was totally aware what i'm all into and why am i drawing this shit but she wasn't very supportive about it, just tolerant. there were girls who went just hysterical after i told them i like vore and it's the only thing that turns me on, it was so horrible i didn't know what to do. they possibly pictured me like something different from what i really was, and it was humiliating to realize i'm that much of a creep i can even cause a nice and quiet girl to freak out in public just because i like vore.
i started to become more and more isolated after i realized that a) i am a total freak b) my desire can't be fulfilled because i obviously can't swallow people whole c) i can't seem to be interested in anything else as much as i am interested in vore. that isolation lasted for some time, i spent about four or three years without literally any kind of physical contact (hugs, handshakes, any social touching felt like electric shock to me), for half a year i was living absolutely single and tried not to interact with just anyone, i even went to the store at night once in two weeks to buy food. my depression went so bad i couldn't do pretty much anything but lying and pitying myself, and that's when i decided i need to seek help, and i can't be silent about my shit, because it's literally killing me.
i started to try talking to my friends, telling them that i have this problem and i don't know what to do with it, i started to push this question pretty much to everyone i know, and slowly i started to feel less weird about myself and things i like, even though i still had no answer and didn't know what to do.
later i met a girl who was okay with just everything about me and i told her about vore, and she was alright with that also, and later she started to support me and even got into vore herself.

i guess my experience is quite extreme and is rare even among the fetish community, but i learned that having a weird fantasy kink is harder when you are asexual and have nothing else in your sleeve to please yourself, and, well, it's harder if you're alone and silent about it, because it's a problem to be shared. and, well, if you talk about shit you like, you can be shamed, but you can also find what you want, because nobody can read your mind, but there always are opportunities.

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Re: Kink shaming

Postby Trollfacegesicht » Wed Jun 05, 2019 6:24 pm

No, I never experienced it myself because nobody knows.

Some people I know WOULD do it though, but thats a minority.
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby empatheticapathy » Wed Jun 05, 2019 7:19 pm

I can't imagine caring about what people think of me.
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby RhinoSalt » Wed Jun 05, 2019 8:08 pm

I don't get kink-shamed. Guess i'm in a good position...
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby Mecho » Wed Jun 05, 2019 8:15 pm

Ursa wrote:ooh what a nice topic! time to write something deeply personal and cringy at this late night time, because i have something to say here.

i've been kink-shamed (and also shamed a lot for so much more than kinks) through my entire life, because i was always too open to people and figured where the borders are just a few years ago, i'm almost thirty and it seems like a late socialisation but better late than never.
though i always tended to be really close to pretty much everyone from complete strangers to my relatives, vore was something i was really ashamed of since i remember (apparently because it was even bigger part of my personality than any other identity thing i can think of), and that shame just ate me from the inside that whole time, so i was trying to get along with someone just to share my struggle about loving something as weird as vore. i remember sharing my "passion towards animals eating things" with my so-called friends when i was something about 12, and they just laughed at me. i pretended it really is funny and laughed too, but deep inside i was really hurt, i started hiding my drawings and became obsessive-scared someone will find them and make fun of me or ask me humiliating questions. This worry became even worse later when i started my attempts to form any kind of romantic relationship with just anyone (i was so desperate i was okay with just anyone around me, boy or girl or whatever), and i had a long history of various fails based on my lack of sexual interest and lots of other weirdnesses i had in me, and as time passed i started to suspect i'm doing something wrong asking people out, like, what do i want from them? hugs?
i never really wanted to have sex with guys, and girls didn't seem as sexual to me as they were portrayed in the media, i was always seeking more for some soulmate rather than a fuckpillow but i always had vore dreams and shittons of drawings with some huge monstrous characters swallowing just everyone, and later when i started to think about some real people around me not as things i hate and want to be gone, but something good, like a romantic interest i can dive into, my vore ideas started to transform until i figured that it is me who i want to see swallowing someone, but the more i was digging into this becoming more and more self-aware, the more awkward it started to become. i dunno where i'd be without eka's, FA and some other places where i found people i can share my stuff with, all that sharing and discussion really helped me get this off my chest, but i still was struggling. I tried confessing about vore to the people i was in relationship with, one of them was totally aware what i'm all into and why am i drawing this shit but she wasn't very supportive about it, just tolerant. there were girls who went just hysterical after i told them i like vore and it's the only thing that turns me on, it was so horrible i didn't know what to do. they possibly pictured me like something different from what i really was, and it was humiliating to realize i'm that much of a creep i can even cause a nice and quiet girl to freak out in public just because i like vore.
i started to become more and more isolated after i realized that a) i am a total freak b) my desire can't be fulfilled because i obviously can't swallow people whole c) i can't seem to be interested in anything else as much as i am interested in vore. that isolation lasted for some time, i spent about four or three years without literally any kind of physical contact (hugs, handshakes, any social touching felt like electric shock to me), for half a year i was living absolutely single and tried not to interact with just anyone, i even went to the store at night once in two weeks to buy food. my depression went so bad i couldn't do pretty much anything but lying and pitying myself, and that's when i decided i need to seek help, and i can't be silent about my shit, because it's literally killing me.
i started to try talking to my friends, telling them that i have this problem and i don't know what to do with it, i started to push this question pretty much to everyone i know, and slowly i started to feel less weird about myself and things i like, even though i still had no answer and didn't know what to do.
later i met a girl who was okay with just everything about me and i told her about vore, and she was alright with that also, and later she started to support me and even got into vore herself.

i guess my experience is quite extreme and is rare even among the fetish community, but i learned that having a weird fantasy kink is harder when you are asexual and have nothing else in your sleeve to please yourself, and, well, it's harder if you're alone and silent about it, because it's a problem to be shared. and, well, if you talk about shit you like, you can be shamed, but you can also find what you want, because nobody can read your mind, but there always are opportunities.

peace.


Wow...
This was a really interesting reading. Thank you for sharing it!
And you are not alone. This reminds me so much of my pass life...Growing up with autism, asexuality, and vore as a huge part of your life. Struggling with unwriten social rules, the feeling of not fitting in and the loneliness. And all the cringy moments that comes with it all .___.
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby Narkotic » Wed Jun 05, 2019 9:44 pm

I'm pretty sure like 5 of my best friends no about my vore fetish. They really don't mind it.

One of my friends get disgusted when I show him vore pictures and I always mess with him because I love seeing how he reacts. But he's a cool dude, there are times where he watches anime and sees a giant monster eating the protagonist whole and then he would show it to me and say 'this reminded me of you'
He's an awesome guy
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby RobStark » Wed Jun 05, 2019 9:57 pm

JackFrost wrote:No, not ever because I would never, ever, ever share my vore fetish with the outside world. Nobody knows about it, even my wife doesn't know, and I intend to keep it that way.

I've had a couple of near misses in the past where people inadvertently stumbled upon a vore image on my computer (this was in the days before I learned to properly hide my stash inside a password-protected rar file with file extension changed, inside dozens of sub-folders all containing innocuous texture packs for gaming mods on an external hard drive) and in both cases I was able to pass it off as "some weird shit that someone sent me for a laugh, creepy isn't it? I was just about to delete it", but that's the extent of it.

I'm so paranoid that I even worry about dying unexpectedly and somebody posthumously looking through the files on my computer and discovering my 'dark secret', and dreading what they might think of me.

Yeah, I know, I'm hopeless. :lol:


I have shared my vore thing with every long term partner I have had, and they have all embraced it. (Which is just a girl I am attracted to or something female like i.e., mermaid, etc. eating me) It's just something sexual for me, not a big deal.
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby JackFrost » Wed Jun 05, 2019 11:54 pm

Good for you, but I'm afraid that I have no plans to do the same. My fetish is harmless, and there's absolutely no reason for others to know about it.
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Re: Kink shaming

Postby Ursa » Thu Jun 06, 2019 5:49 pm

Mecho wrote:Wow...
This was a really interesting reading. Thank you for sharing it!
And you are not alone. This reminds me so much of my pass life...Growing up with autism, asexuality, and vore as a huge part of your life. Struggling with unwriten social rules, the feeling of not fitting in and the loneliness. And all the cringy moments that comes with it all .___.


off-topic but i wonder how many autistic asexual vorarephiles are in the community. i have a long-term impression that many people who have extreme fetishes together with asexuality could be autistic, because it seems logical.

on topic: there was another thing on kink-shaming that was quite an everyday horror to me when i was in university. there was one guy there i used to hang out with, he was usually really fun but also very stubborn (our friendship didn't last for very long, we ended up in a fight and then never say a word to each other again). our group usually ate at the university cafeteria all together between classes. that guy i mentioned was very verbose about his eating process because he thought it was fun, which was a normal thing to others seeing him as some fun joke guy but those comments were making me uncomfortable to the point i can't express, and i once told him that. first he didn't get it, i thought i wasn't very clear so i tried to explain what i feel and why. i remember his reaction, it was some mix of disgust, doubt and attempt to mock me, but i still had some hope he will listen and won't be doing this again in front of me. later he did that again and i immediately asked him to stop, he refused, it was looking like he didn't have a clue about what i'm asking for, i realized he really doesn't care so i just left and started to eat alone or using headphones pretty much everywhere outside class just to make sure i won't hear anything that can make me uncomfortable.

it's funny that later i told the exact same thing to another guy from our class i was also hanging out with, and his reaction was like "oh, that's interesting, so usually people get cringy about genital comments and you have this thing about digestive tract, it's so unusual". so i realized there are people who just want to mock me because it makes them look good, and people who don't need that crap because they can look good listening to my weird shit instead. but i learned that i still need to become a bit more tough about language and i made some work. i don't find creepy comments creepy anymore, i still have this cringy feeling sometimes but now i'm able to recognize it and put it on hold like it's no big deal instead of going all crazy trying to avoid such occasions.
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