Vanilla sex and vore? How?

[FuzzBear]

Hello everyone,

so my (25m) boyfriend (27m) is into vore. We have been together for 4 years and I know that he loves vore since the start of our relationship. I am totally okay with that he is into vore and I encourage him being just who he is.

I am not into vore tho, but I deeply love my partner for who he really is. He likes to listen to my belly when I am hungry or likes when I drink and swallow water or I just lay on him with my belly and he listens and feels "crushed" (idk if I am describing it well ..if no sorry) ... but I was thinking if any of you here would help me with something.

Ofc we have sex, but I feel like he doesnt enjoy vanilla sex stuff that much, and I would like to surprise him by something which includes vore? But what can I do to combine vanilla sex with vore irl? I tried to write with him RP ... but he isnt much of a roleplay guy to begin with .....soooo

I would like to make my partner more happy with me, so he would feel more accepted by who he is.

Any tips?

Thank you all for your reply and have a great day

[Trajan]

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Seriously though this is your sex life and people here are just strangers on the internet. You should rather ask this to him than to us. Also vore is a vast umbrella, with many dimensions to it (size difference or same size/willing or unwilling/pred or prey/safe endo or fatal/hard or soft/etc.) so what one here may like may not apply to your boyfriend.

[GramzonTheDragon]

The spectrum of what kinks people enjoy in vore, let alone outside of vore, is so vast. Given you aren't certain what he would like, you should probably talk about what things he like first, to get a better understanding of what to actually do that's going to be safe and enjoyable.

Do this before cooking up a surprise to make sure you're at least in the right ballpark of what he would enjoy, as some folks will be more open or closed minded. Some may like corny verbal teases, others won't. Some are going to feel more pred, observer, or prey inclined. He might want teases to include mention of digestion, or reassurances of safety (endo), or be flexible between either.

TL;DR, best to ask him for some ideas and guidance.

[KnightleyPaine]

Any tips?

Well for starters, you're willing to at least engage with his vore thing, that alone already means a lot and I'm sure he'll know to appreciate it, whatever the results are. Make sure everything is within reach of your own comfort zone while challenging it, as hurting yourself would also make your partner feel bad, especially if they perceive it to stem from something you've been trying to do for them.

An important start, like some have already indicated, would be to interact with him and figure out what his 'thing' is for vore. We're using it as an umbrella term for a lot of things, but when it comes down to it, everyone has their specifics that you can dissect out. As an example, he listens to your belly work, that's not universal. We're all particular about what to you might just be the most outlandish distinctions: Do you talk about the vore and the edible nature of the prey? Which orifice do people go into? Head first or feet first? Is there chewing? Is there other food inside? Does the belly bulge out? Is the person gassy out of one end or the other? Is there digestion or is the stomach just a safe space? Does digestion actually happen via acids or do people just 'fantasy melt' into a goop and it's actually not painful at all? How fatal is it? Do you come back out? Those are just things I can immediately come up with off the top of my head in a second. Dominance, tongueplay, saliva-fetish, whether or not the pred interacts with the prey - you'll see people like the vilest thing you've heard of, only to have a visceral hate reaction over the most inane details like "I want people to painfully and violently melt in acid but god forbid I see a nipple in the process".

Here's an example of my weird diatribe on specifically working with people who have a cooking fetish. It's not going to work if your bf isn't into that particular direction of the thing.

Liking vore is not a monolith, and people who try to assert their way as default by any metric deserve to get edged by an oncoming sneeze. Once you've isolated his 'neuron activation' triggers, we'll likely also be able to formulate much better plans.

[ShadesofBlack]

Yeah, as others here have said, it's a really diverse set of fantasies, as is the ways people enjoy it.

A couple options could be to ask him more of what he likes about it, or what kinds of vore situations and scenes he likes as part of foreplay and flirting. Maybe talk about it while you cuddle or explore one another.

If he's not into roleplaying or describing the fantasy, he also might be more into it as a fantasy observer than strictly "pred" or "prey." He might enjoy looking at art or comics he likes with you; reading a vore story while doing something physical together. Or it might be an opportunity to understand what in particular he enjoys better, by asking "do you like to see x thing happening" or "would you enjoy imagining me in x role in that picture." Especially fingering, fondling, and hand stimulation works well for this kind of intimate media sharing. You could also try it the other way to let him reciprocate if there's any porn or kink media you would enjoy sharing with him while he plays with you, or maybe a steamy romance novel you'd enjoy having him read to you. Having equivalent ways that he can do special things for you can help it not feel to him like a chore that you are just putting up with, and more like mutual giving. Kind of like being aware of each other's 'love languages' and making efforts to meet each others needs for the joy of making your partner feel loved.

One example I've heard of a lot: he might enjoy pretending that you've eaten someone already, and are digesting or absorbing them while you have sex, like his motion and efforts to arouse are helping you. Or that you've fed him someone and are helping him digest, if he's into being a predator at all. Fantasies can be fun to share and have affirmed as such as they come up, as long as you are both comfortable with it.

Finally, it can definitely be something that is difficult and vulnerable to open up about with someone else, and there aren't a lot of straight-forward methods or guides for doing so. There's a lot of societal training that this is something to keep to yourself / enjoy by yourself, and that can be difficult to get over, and can cause something akin to performance anxiety, which can interfere with most physical forms of sex. If you lean into exploring this kink together, remember it's an experiment, and it might not all work. Part of the fun is trying it together and seeing what sticks.

It's okay to have things that you like sexually and things that he likes that are different, as long as you both enjoy each other's pleasure and the degree of each other being helpful or supportive in it!

[MementoMori]

Hello and welcome to the Portal, that is so sweet of you that you are so acceptant of your boyfriend's fetish that you made this thread, it's heartwarming so good on you - you're a very thoughtful and wonderful person FuzzBear!

That been said, some things I might suggest, if you're comfortable with trying it, are:
1. Licking and kissing him a lot during foreplay is certainly an easy way to incorporate it, in a very subtle and clean way!
2. Giving him cute compliments like "you look so good in that, I could just eat you up~" goes a LONG way for us vories~!
3. You could sometimes pretend and tease him when you're going to have sex, that you'll gobble him up after - like a black widow kinda thing! Only if you'd feel comfortable, of course~
4. Something that I've seen done is just getting wrapped up in a big bulky blanket, especially if you get a red or pink one, but it doesn't even have to be! Or just a sheet will do. Then just rubbing all over their body, or even just cuddling or snuggling them while they're wrapped up in it!

Those are some ideas, good luck to you and hope for the best for you and your boyfriend, hope you have a very happy future together! ♥