Artists/Writers, are sexual comments OK with you?

[Nuenshi]

Bit of a weird question, but let me explain. To start with, let's be honest: this is a fetish site, and a lot of the content here is basically porn, meant to elicit titillation. I'd say the vast majority of people here visit to feel some form of sexual arousal. I think we all kind of accept that. Now, all the comments on my own work have been pretty interesting, polite, or even helpful, so that's very cool of this community, but let me get to my point:

If someone posted a sexually frank comment about your work, how would you feel? I'm not talking a simple "hot" or "really sexy", but something like an open confession that they masturbated to something you created. "I fapped to this three times!" or something like that? Would you be bothered by that? Uncomfortable? Or maybe you'd be flattered in a strange sort of way? After all, if you created your work to be sexy, such comments pretty much confirm you've succeeded.

Personally, I'm not sure how I'd react. The constructive comments I receive on my work now is vastly preferred, but I can't exactly discount these other hypothetical comments if only because they at least confirm I've written something that evokes a strong emotion, which is ultimately what I'm aiming to achieve. Any comment is better than no comment, in most cases.

So yeah, the question just popped into my head today, and I'd love to hear other opinions on the matter. Eka's is a very polite community, so don't mistake this for any kind of complaint on my behalf, just simple curiosity.

[TheKawaiiCommie]

I ask people to not leave sexually charged comments on my profile and it generally hasn't been an issue. I simply don't enjoy receiving that from strangers. Thankfully people on Eka's tend to be very civil and leave nice comments.

[Daichi777]

Lol, no comment is better than most comments depending what it is. It's not common to get normal comments or feedback. Just sexual, disgusting, disturbing stuff and unwanted 'demands/advice/I like x make it because I'm hinting it' usually.

For people like me where it's more taboo/private thing that's triggered more on intimacy or love, when you get a sexual comment it just makes you icky. I'd rather make something and hear no comments or feedback tbh unless it's someone who genuinely likes the idea or detail etc. I'm not the kind of person who needs attention for motivation at all. And I don't want to know when someone is aroused by it.

[Ghrelin]

Frankly, I'd love to know that people get off to my NSFW content. No matter how much artistic effort I put into it, it's still porn and meant to serve that purpose. It's also just kinda cool to know that someone else shares my tastes, after having spent most of my life being ashamed of what I'm into. I'd feel a bit hypocritical asking people to keep their comments on my dirty artwork clean. That said, I do appreciate comments about the art/concept itself even more. Value-wise, I'd put "I totally fapped to this" on about the same level as "Cool pic". It's appreciated, but it doesn't give me much to go on.

Don't get me wrong; a lot of people don't appreciate those kinds of comments on their own work and I think their reasons are perfectly valid. I tend not to make comments like that, myself, and I'd expect those who do to respect the wishes of any creator who asks them not to.

[Gershwin]

It really depends on how the comment is written. There's different ways of saying you got aroused from some work. Personally, I'd prefer people to be more subtle about it if they really want to mention it, I dislike explicit statements of sexual act regarding my work.

If someone comments "This is a great story, and honestly, I found it really arousing" - then that's fine. We all know what that means, but much more than that and it just feels a bit ick. I'd put it on the same scale of not wanting as "content fishing" / "content control", you know those comments that say something like "Oh man I can't wait for her to get digested!" as a means of trying to influence what happens in the next chapter but having the copout of not explicitly asking or demanding.

[TETRO]

I don't mind it at all. In fact, I hint that I welcome it in my comment profile text. I get that a lot of people don't like that, so I try not to leave comments like that just willy-nilly unless I know the recipient wants them. But as for me, I don't mind. If someone leaves me a sexually charged comment telling me how much they "enjoyed" my work, I'd be touched that my work was able to affect someone so powerfully.

[MasterMage13]

It's fine with me. I appreciate any comments. And as far as the sexual stuff goes, I mean, ... that's why the majority of us are here, isn't it? I assume out of all the views my stories have gotten, collectively thousands of views, that someone has "enjoyed themselves" with them.

I might be weirded out if someone, like, propositioned me directly or something. But making sexual comments on a sexual story on a fetish website I think is just normal.

The only thing I don't like is blatantly negative comments from people who are deliberately being assholes\trolls. But that's not a problem I have had here thus far.

I remember when I started doing this that I thought "Oh this is going to be easy!". Well... it's not, lol. Encouragement of any kind, even people who just "favorite" stuff is nice; "oh 30 people favorited this? That's cool. I'll write for an audience of 30" To me, that's a lot! And constructive feedback, even requests\suggestions\advice is fine (Doesn't mean I will DO it or agree or follow it) Art\writing is difficult to improve in a vacuum.

Oh, I jerk off to your work! "Really, you do? Cool." That's fine with me. I assume someone has. I'm not kidding myself that people only read\like\watch my stuff because they really really like the plot or my writing style or something.

[Humbug]

I'm perfectly fine with the stuff you described first, the "Man, that's hot" and whatnot, but the focus of your question, more explicit stuff, does a little of both the things you said: It flatters me a little, but also tells me that this is probably not a person I will ever hang out with. I like restraint when it comes to interactions, especially with strangers, and something that blatant shows me the person isn't interested in boundaries. Maybe they're perfectly nice people, but they're not MY kind of people, so while I answer almost every comment, I tend to pointedly ignore those kinds.

[GREGOLE]

First of all, Barugon avatar! I like you already.

Secondly, it's not often that people tell me outright that they've masturbated to my art, and the last time it happened, I wasn't quite sure how to take it. But after a few minutes, I realized I felt validated. It did its job, right?

Now, I prefer there to be a bit of artistic merit to even the horniest of drawings - a way to appreciate it when it's not the one week of the month where I feel arousal - so if I got nothing but comments of that sort, I would start to doubt myself. I would be annoyed. But once in a while, being reminded that I managed to make someone cum without even touching them? That's kinda cool.

[DevourerOfLolis]

I'd honestly be flattered if someone admitted to getting off to my work. The primary reason for my work is to be porn. I myself get off to my creations because it's often content that I want to see, but can't find anyone else that makes it. So I just do it myself.
If someone makes a comment on my works say that they masturbated to it, then all that does if validate that I did my job right in making some nice fetish porn.
Not to say I don't appreciate it when people compliment the non pornographic elements of my works. Even if porn is the primary reason for my work's existence, far from the only one. And I tend to like making stuff that can stand something great and worth reading/playing/viewing even if you ignore the pornographic side of it.

[Assimilation]

A bit of a tangent, but since we've got a bunch of artists talking about the comments, I do want to bring up the following:

I try to leave meaningful top-level comments (i.e. not replies to others' comments) in an effort to make sure that an artist's messages after every post isn't purely a sea of "great work!" or "hot!". But it's often a challenge to hit the right level of engagement that, in my mind, makes the artist feel appreciated without it starting to get into "okay, dude, calm down it's just a drawing" territory. Some artists seem to have prior familiarity with other commenters, so I see bouncy "OMIGOD this is SO GOOD" enthusiasm with the artist replying in kind, and it feels goofy when I try to write with that casual affect only for the artist to reply with the polite acknowledgement befitting my current writing voice. I normally talk like a sour curmudgeon but am trying to make the genuine effort to be supportive to creators in this community, so there's always this collision of tone that I have to steer around when I try to give the artist a fulfilling message while trying to not be fake.

The challenge is furthered for non-writing pieces because, in that 2D art realm, I've had almost no vocabulary for the majority of my time. When I look at images, I see smooth lines, sensible proportions, well-contrasted colors, and compositional storytelling. It's hard for me as a non-illustrator to recognize the technical achievement in your cross-hatching, unorthodox perspective, rim lighting, or whatever—I can only give my simpleton "this art looks very good to me". I've been learning some of those things, but very slowly, because at the end of the day as a content consumer I've got no other reason to learn the processes of (mostly digital) 2D artists.

All of that combines to make me nowhere near as prolific as I'd like to be with leaving comments. Again, I want to make artists feel seen and heard, and I understand that comments are the heftier way of doing that compared to views and favorites, but I worry that I'll overdo it and the artist will lose valuation of my comments. So when I see at least a good half of comments on a work be, "my god, I'm so fucking hard right now," or some variation, I do wonder if that's the simple solution that's fine to reach for if I want the artist to get emotional feedback but I can't muster the time and brainpower to leave a more meaningful message.

[Malus]

As a writer, I love it.^^
It makes me happy if someone really enjoyed the story.

I mean, I effectively am sharing something extremely intimate and explicit and as a writer, I tend to get very into the characters as I work on it, so, honestly, it would be a bit weird to feel queasy about hearing such things from other people.

I do try to be at least more, well, tactful and indirect (this really got me hot and bothered, I really enjoyed putting myself in the place of the prey there, etc.) myself, because I am not sure how others tend to feel, but, for myself, no, I am very much fine with that sort of thing.

[ArcaneSigil]

I don't mind so long as they don't do some "self insert" stuff. Like commenting as if they were doing something with one of the characters within the story. Cheapens it for other readers who will eventually get to the comments section in my opinion.

[PlaTT]

Honestly, I just chuckle at them cause I find it pretty funny. Though, I’ve only had people say that in private about the stuff I’ve posted lol

[jaggedjagd]

Creepy comments welcome.

You know, within reason. Commenting sexual stuff on the OCs is fine, the "i wish that were me, i wanna get gurgled by that fat gut so hard" type of comments. That stuff makes me laugh more than anything.

Telling in detail how one jacked off irl tho, ehhh no. TMI, mate.

[EloquentOrc]

I don't mind, see it is a compliment

However, I would definitely prefer if they also left something more constructive, like feedback about what worked/didn't.

[msmyriam]

As a writer, I think the limit is when the comment switches from telling me they got off to the story, to trying to get some kind of sexual gratification out of me personally. If someone says they masturbated to my work, that's one thing. But if someone clearly wants me to know the details of it, or interact with them about their experience in a lewd sort of way, that's... well, not ideal. And it's pretty obvious when this line is crossed, so I haven't had much of a problem with it.

Much more annoying is when people give me unsolicited advice on how to change the story to be how they personally would've liked it, which I think comes from the same sort of attitude. The whole, "why is this not exactly what I would want to read?" thing. But even then I'm not mad, just disappointed. I get pretty stoked when I see a comment notification, and I respond to most of them, so when it's from someone who's not engaging with the work in good faith, it's kind of a bummer.

[Sitharc]

Would rather they not, at least not in vivid detail, or think if I respond to it at all it gives them permission to send obsessive PMs to me. This applies to RPs too with me, not into masturbation content to begin with, but an occasional 'this turned me on' or 'that was so hot, I fapped to those x times since posted that' is fine, again as long as it stays to that level of detail. Don't need to keep hearing about how the other person is so hard right now or specifically telling me how they are stroking their dick.

However, if they do on some level, again as long as not in detail, just a simple 'this turned me on' or 'i fapped to this, however many x times' and such is fine now and then I guess. Might depend a bit on what story/art piece it was put on too or if they say what specific part or aspect did it for them as to how I'd feel about it.

I'd rather get more of an actual comment discussing the piece a bit and letting me know what point(s) they loved the most and all that. A sexual comment is still better than the ones some people leave where all they do is basically voice their disapproval of whatever scene or aspect you included. If someone dislikes this or that thing so much, maybe don't go looking for that content then leave comments on them stating your issue with it. At least a sexual comment shows they still enjoyed the piece.

[EmilyNidhoggr]

How much comments annoy me, a tier list

S (Super annoying, go and eat a family sized bag of dicks):
-"What is happening in this piece?" (Variants include "Wut", "What the" and "Wtf", occasionally phrased in a way that sounds sincere but you are wasting your time if you reply because they've already left)

A (Annoying, please stop):
-"You should draw something unrelated"
-"Do you rp?"
-"Can I ask a question?" (The question, when you respond, is usually sexual and accompanied by buckets of flop sweat)
-Pervs being uninspired (eg. "I wouldn't mind you eating me", etc.)

B (Barely Annoying, I don't mind):
-Non-pervs being uninspired (eg. "Nice!", "well done", "cute")
-Generic comments about the characters (eg. "She looks like she's having a good time.")
-Vore haters being disgusted

C (Come join my discord, I like you):
-Cute jokes specific to the premise
-Pervs being charming (very rare)
-Comments, gushing or not, that show that the person has read and comprehended the content

D (Don't stop, I'm going to explode):
-People having breakthroughs in the comments
-Engagement with themes
-Long comments detailing someone's take
-Other creators I like noticing and appreciating me

F (Friends for life, they know who they are):
-Comments from regulars who get my whole deal


Btw I'm aware I'm hardly the one to talk, because I very rarely comment unless a creator is smaller than me and/or they're a stranger I want to connect with, because nice comments that make a creator's day take a bit of time and thought, which I'm selfish with.

But I can say this: it feels bad when a piece you worked hard on gets no comments, but it's way worse when it gets one really annoying comment and nothing else. Which is why Assimilation's commenting philosophy that they spell out earlier in this thread is so great. I myself have had some lovely comments from Assimilation, and I always remember them and am happy when I see their icon around. Thank you to Assimilation and others like them for making creating free internet degeneracy so rewarding.

[janejobs]

I'm asexual personally, and detest sexual stuff as a general rule. The appeal of vore for me I think comes down to the fact that it's about survival; the pred having to eat to survive and the prey having to avoid being eaten to survive. When people put sexual stuff in it, it really ruins it for me.