Do you ever plan of getting rid of your vore fetish?

[deathjump9000]

First thing first this is not a kink shame thread, if you can make your life work with this fetish then all the more power to you but there are definately some challenges that vore fetishists have that other fetishists don't have to contend with. For example, while most fetishs are taboo, vore is even more taboo due to the impossibility of the act itself, the grossness of the idea of being inside of another being, and most vore ending with the death of the individual. If you tell someone you have a foot fetish or a robot fetish, they might give you a strange look but overall, they would understand. Generally, the same isn't true for vore I believe.

Another Challenge we face is that the fetish isn't all that sexually gratifying. Everything we do with our fetish has to be done in our imaginations. With other fetishes you can perhaps perform sexual actions on the object of your fetish or dress up and roleplay with a partner. I'm just imagining a silly situation where someone is roleplaying a vore situation with their partner where they just sit next you and go yum yum I ate you, then they throw microwaved hot mustard on you to simulate the stomach acids.

I guess what I am saying is because of these challenges do you ever plan on resisting or even giving up the fetish in the future or do you see yourself as a lifelong vore enjoyer.

I myself kind of see it like alcohol or cigarettes, it's a bad habit I really enjoy but I plan on resisting it if I ever get into a serious relationship, much like my grandfather gave up cigarettes after he got married to my grandmother. I don't know if I can, but I will try.

[Tilalumtar]

I am in a serious relationship, we are engaged actually and I never plan to get rid of it.
I told her, she isn't into it, but we both have our kinks and we don't shame each other.

For me it's just a part of my personality now. The act of vore, being prey, is like giving up oneself for the other. The act of total surrender. Letting go of all control. That's who I am, with vore fetish or without, it doesn't change. And it isn't that bad that I can't live or have sex without acting on that fetish, so I am content with how it is.

[Jihhh]

I couldnt even if I tried and I know this because I did try. I have had it since I had weird thoughts (like the age of 5-6) and found out about vore when I was underage (around 11) then freaked out and spent a decade repressing the fuck out of it to the point I would torment myself with cold showers and self beatings if I even so much had such thoughts. Spoiler alert: these violent attempts to repress unraveled incrementally. So I DID spend a while repressing it and still am pretty hostile to 80% of the other people who like vore. But the repression seemed to have stunted development more than create the hyper productive super machine I was promised id be if I did so. Far from it. Just alienated by society in general, COVID shook me out of the repression for whatever reason but I still have a very low view of vore in general even if I take pride in the niches I like these day. So at least it stopped being self loathing. Maybe it is not healthy to shift from self loathing repression to "fuck these other guys" but it's progress all the same and even that whole phase seems to be chilling out after like 2 years.

[Quarters]

First thing first this is not a kink shame thread, if you can make your life work with this fetish then all the more power to you but there are definately some challenges that vore fetishists have that other fetishists don't have to contend with. For example, while most fetishs are taboo, vore is even more taboo due to the impossibility of the act itself, the grossness of the idea of being inside of another being, and most vore ending with the death of the individual. If you tell someone you have a foot fetish or a robot fetish, they might give you a strange look but overall, they would understand. Generally, the same isn't true for vore I believe.

Another Challenge we face is that the fetish isn't all that sexually gratifying. Everything we do with our fetish has to be done in our imaginations. With other fetishes you can perhaps perform sexual actions on the object of your fetish or dress up and roleplay with a partner. I'm just imagining a silly situation where someone is roleplaying a vore situation with their partner where they just sit next you and go yum yum I ate you, then they throw microwaved hot mustard on you to simulate the stomach acids.

I guess what I am saying is because of these challenges do you ever plan on resisting or even giving up the fetish in the future or do you see yourself as a lifelong vore enjoyer.

I myself kind of see it like alcohol or cigarettes, it's a bad habit I really enjoy but I plan on resisting it if I ever get into a serious relationship, much like my grandfather gave up cigarettes after he got married to my grandmother. I don't know if I can, but I will try.

I don't see it as a bad habit that needs suppressing, it's just a part of me that very few people irl know about. My younger brother/roommate knows about it, he is definitely not a fan, but he doesn't hold it against me. My mom has at least seen some images I'd printed off as references when I was still actively working on my Felarya story with Anna's brother. She simply said that they're not something she has any interest in seeing, but then that was over a decade ago at this point, so I doubt she even remembers. That's everyone I know for sure has seen that part of my life, though perhaps my best friend has some inkling, though neither of us have ever brought it up.

As for deriving satisfaction, tucking yourself in your sheets tightly or getting fully wrapped up in them can help the imagination. This is especially easy for me as A) I don't have my sheets or blanket actually tucked into my bed, they're fully free for manipulation, and B) I sleep in the nude, leading to direct contact with silky smooth sheets that cling to my body more and more as they soak up my sweat. Disgusting? Sure, but it gets the job done and I don't have anyone to share the bed with anyway. I just need to wash my sheets more often than normal. Oh, and C) having a body pillow with decent weight to it lying lengthwise on top of me helps too.
Admittedly, I'm not sure what I'd do if I ever have a partner, so I can see how my method would not work for someone who does.

Anyhoo, no, I can't currently see this part of me ever going away. It's like a secret hobby I don't share with anyone, and everyone deserves to have a hobby.

[Noxyoursox]

Kinks aren't anything to be ashamed of, nor is there anything inherently harmful about indulging them. Tbh if I couldn't trust a partner to be okay with me after telling them about my kinks (even if they find it weird/gross/disturbing) then that isn't a good sign for the relationship as a whole. And other people have no business knowing, so what they would think of it if they did know is irrelevant. I'm not going to deprive myself of something that gives me pleasure just because some people disapprove of it.

[Squidia]

Thinking of kinks as something you need to grow out of, or even as something you can "get rid of" at all is a dangerous road to tread, my friend.

[IddlerItaler]

Another Challenge we face is that the fetish isn't all that sexually gratifying. Everything we do with our fetish has to be done in our imaginations. With other fetishes you can perhaps perform sexual actions on the object of your fetish or dress up and roleplay with a partner. I'm just imagining a silly situation where someone is roleplaying a vore situation with their partner where they just sit next you and go yum yum I ate you, then they throw microwaved hot mustard on you to simulate the stomach acids.

Thank goodness that my primary kink intersecting with vore is a mouth fetish. You can look into your partner's mouth and get licked way more easily. Similar deal if you're into AV and your favourite part is facesitting.

As for your question, no. A kink like any other passion can spiral out of control and disrupt the course of your daily life, and while I did end up quitting some fandoms and sites for my own good, I never felt like that was the case with vore.

[Trajan]

Never ever. It's part of me, of who I am, and I don't want to change myself, especially for harmless shit like a goofy-ass fetish.

[Kanosint]

I used to want to be 'normal', as I am also very much asexual so my vore fetish is essentially my only sexual outlet. However, I've looked back, and realize now that I am who I am because of vore, and I've met more friends - close friends - through vore than any other way. I don't regret one moment other than perhaps not letting my anxiety over this go sooner.

[Malkordev]

This idea is fascinating to me because I have NO clue how anyone would 'get rid' of it. Many attempts to purge or alter people's sexuality have been made in the past, and nothing good ever came of it. I don't understand why it would matter either. You can just choose to keep it separate from your love life. As stated, it's entirely in the realm of fantasy. Unlike non-heterosexual attraction, we have the privilege of keeping things under wraps if we want.

Also your partner might be into weird shit too. People are messy little gremlins, and that's fucking cool. Better to get it out in the open when you're comfortable with each other. Alternatively, if they can't abide something trivial like a fetish, they're probably not mature enough for a long-term relationship.

On the other hand, yes, if you did want to simulate things to a certain degree, you have larger obstacles to overcome compared to other fetishes. Probably on the level of something like WAM or sophisticated shibari. That's just the price you pay for this kind of thing.

[Miridium]

Not really. It's part of who I am and I enjoy sharing it in safe spaces online such as here.

[sliggowo]

hell nah, i used to try to suppress it to the point that i was afraid of even making friends because i was certain the moment word got out, i would be done for. eventually i did make some friends online and one day vore came up in a conversation, and someone made some not so nice remarks about it. at that point i was feeling so torn that i gave in and just told a couple friends "hey this is part of me, that made me uncomfortable" and i am not exaggerating when i say their response was the biggest turning point in my life. my whole life i had prepared for that moment when my friendship would be over but instead got hit with "alright, good to know"

that was when i realized i was putting so much work into hiding myself that not even i knew who i was. in the moment i thought i was a straight man, but boy did that change quickly after that conversation. much happier now, all because i learned to accept that vore is a healthy part of me. though based on my message history here, maybe i still have some work to do being fully comfortable with myself.

also, as others have said, if you can't trust a sexual partner with you having your sexual interests, that's a big red flag (not that you should disclose it right away, just when things are getting serious). whether they'll engage in it is a different story, my partner isn't the biggest fan but doesn't mind me getting off with a bit of vore on my own. she's also learned that i'll watch any anime with her if it has good vore.

[IndySteveo]

What you are into as someone into vore can easily sidegrade into other fetishes. Like I'm into being a Pred and the humiliation of prey, that easy enough to transfer into a BDSM fetish. Into big bellys, getting into Pregplay or feedism. Into being Prey, get into being a sub. Into feral, join a furry community. Etc. Extract your preferences and turn it into a separate fetish that you can act out IRL.

[Artemis]

God no. Have you seen what normal people are into? I wholeheartedly reject the idea that my interest in vore is unhealthy. At least not relative to what anyone else is into.

[Squidia]

To be honest, our culture is backsliding pretty hard into puritanism right now. The idea of suppressing our paraphilias to better fit into society sounds like a great way to make sure that that society becomes exponentially worse.

[Gambas32]

My fetish will probably never go away.....why would I want it to, it's fun!
But....i am trying to cut down on how much time I spend roleplaying and doing this stuff in general. I need real hobbies and real relationships with people. Physically it's also not very healthy....to be jacking off all the time, lol.

[Doku]

If my spouse ever requests that it ends, it ends. I will look into therapy to assist in removing the paraphilia at that point. Not likely, as neither of us really intervene in each other's fictional RP/art.

However, as I age and as my sexuality has developed and matured, I find that my libido reduces. This is probably at least in part due to hormonal shifts over time, but in truth? I have not had the urge towards actually engaging in sexual activity physically for well over fifteen years, and find the entire act a little goofy and silly to be honest? Bouts of active sexual attraction for people in my life are rare and fleeting. I am fairly Graysexual and Aegosexual with a bi leaning towards gender (Female-presenting preference). So, while I take sexual gratification in art and RP, my libido is spotty and hit and miss at best, and I have little to no interest in established social or parasocial connections with RP partners. This means that my urge towards my fetishes just is not what it was a decade and change ago, when I would do hundreds of RP sessions over the course of a year, catalogue them, draw bad art of them and hunt for more. Months will go by where I am not especially interested in engaging, and it won't really bother me.

In a decade, my expectation is that the natural progress will cause me to distance myself further from my fetishes and, at some point, I will probably be sufficiently sated with them that I gradually fade from the community entirely. I just don't see it being something that I am actively fascinated by in twenty years from now.

Is this a "plan?" No. I don't plan stages in my sexual maturation, and I don't recommend doing so. Sexual maturation simply occurs differently for each person.
Would I prefer not to have this fetish? Hah. Yes. Look, I fetishize (even if it is in a fantasy/drawn setting and nowhere near real life) the idea of death and other morbid things. I have never viewed this fascination to be healthy, nor do I recommend it to others. I would prefer not to have such a fascination, and I do actually take solace in the gradual reduction of my libido as I age.

[FemmiK]

I used to have the desire to get rid of it (it even fueled one or two of my temporary retirements), but honestly nowadays I'm more than fine with it. I have people in my life who accept me for it, including my partner of 4 years (as of today even!) who also has the kink, and for my closest group of friends it's even a bit of an in-joke now. So I'm fairly comfortable with it now, and since I don't usually take it further than artwork, I don't think it'll ever get out of control.

[FunnelVortex]

No. I stopped feeling "guilty" of my kink and embraced it a long time ago. I do not wish to go back to feeling shame again.

And like others have stated we're living through a shitty social upheaval where puritan attitudes are concerningly and quickly on the rise. I absolutely refuse to enable that bullshit.

Also trust me what normies are into is much worse. Normies, especially those who criticize kink art and listen to Faux News blab about the "rise of degeneracy", get off to real life murders and think it's okay and normal to cheat on their wives and watch their cousin half their age dance at the strip bar, I highly doubt they are on any grounds to judge our fantasy kink.

So the answer is a resounding NO! If someone feels like they need to I feel there are other elements (mental health or sociological) at play.

[TheSecretBacon]

One word.

Nope~